Okay, im sure I a bit nuts...but.... dad has been in an assisted living facility for 1 year now. he has gotten a lot better. he probably will never walk very far again, but he can transfer. He went it because he was drinking at home like a fish (alcoholic) and I was his enabler. Now he isnt drinking except once in a while he will order a small beer with a meal... and have half it for desert cause he doesn't seem to care.
My question today: he isn't beggin and is resigned (for at least now) to "doing what needs to be done" he feels like he is in jail and all the rest. If he is as cognizant and continues to be, I want to know what you guys think about me bringing him home (he is 92 and will not have much time left).
Also need to mention that this house is half his. He has an inlaw section of the main house--separate kitchen, living room etc.
Also want to mention I got Aid and Attendance for him and that together with his soc security almost pays for the ALA.
But... half of this house is his. I would need to get a contractor out here to widen the doorways and remove the carpet In the bedroom and lving room, but I have a brother that lives in Arizona that is in construction so he could fly out and at least start the renovation.
I would hire two shifts of home health care and could afford it with the Aid and Attendance. Then the rest of the time I could pick up. I could load his pill containers every week and just have the aides make sure he got them. Maybe I would want an aid to COOK cause that aint me, babe. But I already drive 30 minutes each way and spend about 5 hours with him as it is, so that would almost be easier for me.
I would have to tell any visitors NOT to bring him any booze but I am selling his car, so he cant run out of here when im not here. if he did start drinking I don't know what Id do.
it all sounds right except for two things: my husband doesn't like him and the booze could cause an issue. please comment