He does not want to end our relationship. His mother does not respect me. He has begun to ask the "hard questions" to his parents, after many heated discussions with me. I am the last of eight with one surviving parent, he is the only remaining adult child with 2 very elderly and frail parents who still insist on living in their home. He has become convinced that when the inevitable happens his life will be over and does not want to "ruin my life" and be resentful toward him. Even though we are not legally married, I am just as committed as if we were married (I was widowed 20 years ago). I told him I want to remain with him, and am willing to stay in our home while he cares for his parents and tends to their affairs. He just despairs and tells me that is very naive.