I realize this isn't an aging care question but I appreciate the feedback I've read on this forum in the past from the various perspectives and experts. My sister passed away Nov '19 and her ashes are buried in my parent's burial lot. My BIL, which has basically become estranged by me and my siblings due to his strange behavior, now wants to move my sister's ashes to another burial lot. This is in NY State. BIL claims that he is not pleased with her grave marker and the cemetery is saying that they cannot allow a larger marker. I cannot confirm it but other family members say that my sister's wish was to be buried with my parents. So my question is it legal for my BIL to do this?
Your sister's husband may find that State Law could prohibit removing the urn without a Court Order. In either case, if no Court Order is needed, he would need to hire a licensed company come in to open/close the plots which could be expensive, plus ordering a new headstone, and removal of the old headstone if just her name is on said stone and not her parents. If all three names are on the stone, that's another issue. If he has already purchased a new plot, sounds like he wishes to be buried together with his late wife.