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Veronica, same here, I am trying to plan ahead for myself. Every day that retirement community keeps looking better and better for myself :)

I can't wait for the car that can drive itself... that would save all of us a lot of big time worry and holding our breathe waiting for something bad to happen.

In fact I am ready for such a vehicle because I find driving my parents anywhere is a major panic attack waiting to happen. Dad doesn't understand that... his comment to me is usually "but who is going to drive us?" Gee, Dad, I don't know, in fact who is going to drive ME since I have no children?
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Veronica, interesting comment and it reminded me that one time, before Dad got bad, he (a retired mathematician!) had sat and computed the total cost over a year of owning their two vehicles, and tried to get Mom to agree to sell them because it was actually going to be less expensive to take a taxi or the bus or one of the elderly ride services in their town. When you figure out the insurance, gas, registration and average out the maintenance costs...it IS a lot of money over a year! Mom refused and they never did it. But I've since learned that there are lots of services through the local council on aging that I had no idea existed until my Mom started needing more help.
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My husband and I are elderly and I knew that I would have the same problem and dreaded it like crazy. He also had a pickup that he loved. I told him one day that we are both not young anymore and if anything happened to him I didn't know what I would do, so I needed to start driving and needed him to remind me of the lights, etc. And I would teach him to use the washer, dryer, etc.(that never happened. But the Lord sent our son at just the right time, after he needed his Dad's truck. My husband never minds letting anybody borrow anything, just won't give anything away. He forgot about the truck and I took the car keys and hid them. What I was dreading so terribly never happened!!
I hope this might help some.
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Most ate sound things to do but if he becomes a physical danger to you do the right thing have him put where he can't hurt you or himself that won't I hope happen at all under proper care
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the best way is under the hood of the car --discnect some wires.
My sister had her licence taken away ,but she drove anyways.So
if the car can't start -- it will stay right in the driveway.
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All of your answers were good. Right now my husband has actually lost his truck key. We are oing to have a mechanic who works at our dealership tell our daughter how to disable the truck. I think the idea of selling both automobiles and buying myself a new car is the best suggestion of all. Thanks to all of you. I can't say "keep on trucking" because the truck won't be here. (ha). I haven't answered earlier because my computer is acting up. I am using another one that I have to get used to....Thanks to ALL'
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My Aunt is 83 with moderate Alzheimer's, she lives with us. The hospital told us she couldn't drive anymore, so when she came to live with us I told her it was up to her doctor when she could drive again. He of course said no, but I had to ask him to notify the DMV and they sent a letter telling her that her license was revoked. I made a copy of the letter to give her and she ripped it up. Its been tough, she still says she wants to drive and chooses not to remember that she doesn't have a license. She wont turn in the one on her wallet. We always hide the keys from her. She had a spare key in her walker that she would not give up. So one day she left her purse in the car and we took the key to the store and had them grind extra notches in it. Then I put it back. She still thinks she has a key, and we know it doesn't work. Sometimes you have to get creative.
It feels wrong sometimes, but we have found ways to say things and blame the dr, dmv, etc etc so she is mad at them and not us. Our goal is to keep her safe. And sometimes that means she is NOT happy. Hang in there, it is hard.
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