I need to tell my 95 year old mom who has lived with me for the past 4 years . She is terrified of leaving here and going there. I live in Canada and any help from anyone who has had to have this discussion with a loved one would be very helpful. I am a bundle of nerves just thinking of having to do this to someone I love so dearly. As much as I love her, I am just so burnt out and tired that I need to do this for myself, which of course, makes me feel so very selfish. Please help.