I need to tell my 95 year old mom who has lived with me for the past 4 years . She is terrified of leaving here and going there. I live in Canada and any help from anyone who has had to have this discussion with a loved one would be very helpful. I am a bundle of nerves just thinking of having to do this to someone I love so dearly. As much as I love her, I am just so burnt out and tired that I need to do this for myself, which of course, makes me feel so very selfish. Please help.
She is in a really good nursing home. They take good care of her. It was hard at first but it does get easier. Good Luck!
"Mom, we're going to take some tours of senior facilities. You know that my health is not good and my doctor is concerned about how doing this 24/7 caregiving is affecting my health.
Your doctor is telling me that you need more professional care than I can give you. As much as I'd love to be able to care for you at-home, what you need right now is more than I can do. So we're going to look at some places together and we'll figure out what the beat place is. I'll always be your advocate and cheerleader, and I'll be there to visit you often"