He is in wheelchair, and does not stand at all. The briefs are really hard for me to put on him and take off. I have used Depends with additional pad and the bed is still wet. Bed pad gets all wrinkled up as he scoots around without use of his legs. No outside help.
I realize you are struggling with this on your own. how heavy is he? and how tall and strong are you? Is he in a hospital bed? His Dr can prescribe one although there wil be some cost. There is a pully that can go on the bed and if he is strong enough he may be able to pull his butt up off the bed which will help you with pull ups. The side closure type might be easier if you have to roll him side to side. Is he appropriate for hospice? Even if you don't think so let them make that determination. Also if he is a veteran there should be help from them.
please come back with any other questions. it would be helpful if you can tell us more about his condition.