Oh my gosh, I sure hope not. I am hoping that the next generation after our elderly parents are taking notes because retirement and slowing down seems to be coming at us at a fast clip.
At 68 years old, I know I am not quite ready for a retirement village this year even though they look very inviting. Currently I can hire people to do the yard work, do repair work, and cleaning people as I am becoming lazy because I am too tired physically and emotionally dealing with my aging parents who still live in their own 3 story single family home.
I know I want to be around people of my own generation, not stuck in a neighborhood as nice as it is with nothing in common with my neighbors.... I don't want my neighbors to feel they have to watch over me when it snows and feel they have to shovel my driveway, or bring up my newspaper, or bring up my rubbish barrel.... I don't want to depend on others to get my groceries, or take me to my doctor appointments, or take me shopping, etc.... and I don't want to feel alone if my mate should become ill and is no longer at home.
I am so glad I have been fugal all my life, started saving money when I was 5 years old and had my own saving account. I plan to find the best possible retirement community that money can buy and enjoy my life. Not be an emotional burden on others. I have learn so much what NOT to do from my parents.
Today I gave my parents a booklet on a 5-star retirement community that I know they can afford. Dad said that will be good in case they need to move in the next couple of years.... HELLO... you are 92 and 96..... move in while you can enjoy everything the place has to offer. And maybe for once I would get a good night sleep instead of laying away worrying about them.
My parents never took care of their aging parents so my parents have zero idea what I am going through. My parents had siblings and their spouses, and dozens of grown nieces and nephews back in their respected home towns that did all that work. My parents probably sent money to help out.
I am resentful that when my parents were my age they were having a grand retirement and enjoying every minute without a care in the world...... and here I am, an only child with no children, putting a hold on my retirement. I live in the same city as my parents. Guess the secret is to live hundreds of miles away.
Freq Flyer
Just because you have a pain you don't have to be a pain. Sig other's mother (she is late 80s - he is younger than me) doesn't talk about her infirmities. She says she feels better if she doesn't. I'm still listening and learning,
judda - I think choice has a lot to do with it. However, if you (in general not you particularly) get a disease like dementia or Alz unfortunately some bad behaviours go with it. God spare us!
My parents have a Will but it is 12 years old, and would be a probate nightmare
because on how it is written.
I am so glad that my sig other and I are already in the process of having our Trusts, POA's, yada, yada, yada, worked on and we can't wait to finally sign on the dotted line. He's hoping he doesn't kick the bucket before hand as he would be spinning in his grave if the old Will was used, a lot has changed since then.
Now Dad is asking about Assisted Living, something that he and Mom should have considered a few years ago.... I really bet that my Mom would be still up and about if they had moved... instead it was her idea to keep living in that big house, had a major fall because she was too exhausted trying to be the housewife [97] yet refused anyone to come in to help be it caregivers or cleaning crews.... [sigh]