My mother is almost 71 and recently had her second fall. First one a few years ago shattered one arm; now she's shattered the other. We're in the process of selling her two-story home and moving her to an apartment near my sibling.
I live several hours away, and coming into to help, I'm realizing that mom may be further into dementia than I realized. She baby talks a lot. She makes really broad sweeping, uninformed statements like "They (the government) should get rid of the IRS!" She freaked out on my nephew saying he would get smoke burns because he was sitting on a hearth 2 feet away from an outdoor fire pit. But the confabulation is the worst...
She hasn't been diagnosed with confabulation, but she is exhibiting every symptom. She changes stories from a long time ago, and she changes the details of something that happened yesterday. Nothing is immune. Most of the time, her confabulation twists details to make her look like a hero, a great mom, and even better grandmother. And most of the time, they involve her keeping a great secret for someone else - as if she's the most trustworthy person you could possibly know (she's not). She also makes up stories that pit the siblings against each other, which is not cool. Because, you know, you want to believe your mom wouldn't lie to you.
We haven't talked to her doctor yet. For those of you with parents with confabulation and early signs of dementia, when did you step in? And how do you handle this? Do you point out their reconstructed stories?
I really do love my mother, but it is so hard to spend time with her like this. I get easily annoyed. It's hard to bring her into social settings with extended family because she constantly interrupts the flow of conversation between several people. Usually that interruption starts with something like "It's my turn to tell a story now..." It wears on us all, and I can see it's upsetting to her when we tell her she needs to cool it.
Any advice is appreciated.