Okay so I haven't gone against her wishes ! Just making sure I'm doing the right thing ! My husband said the same exact thing as all of you !! But although my parents included religion in raising us ...we did not become members of church ,or attend on a regular basis to any church ,so that being said I just want advice that I'm not doing something wrong like sacrileges !! I know I sound dumb !!but I really am un knowing about this !!!All I want is for her to be peaceful and comfortable the poor little frail woman I thought maybe she'd find comfort with a chaplin ....
Hold on a minute. Your Aunt in a Minister? That puts the whole debate in different light, don’t ya think?
My Father was a Minister. That would be so very very out of character for him - we would questioned it too - and likely would have brought his Pastor in anyway.
Is seems a bit that the desire for the Chaplain is for yourselves. There is no shame with your aunt's wishes and honoring them shows self respect for this on your part.
Why go against her wishes? It is part of HER exit plan, I would honor her wish. The day before my cousin died he told me to give one of his cars to a certain friend, another to another and some $$$ to two other friends, It was verbal, not in his will, I did it honored his wishes.
I cannot believe you would want to go against her wishes at the end of her life. I am an atheist all my life; while I don't mind a friendly face stopping by, and have no problem whatsoever with my friends who DO believe, this is personal to me, in that I seem simply to be born without the slightest gene for belief. I would find it so offensive if someone did an override on my wishes just because I was finally helpless enough they could do so.
If she doesn’t want to see a Chaplin, why would you go against her wishes? If the rest of the family needs comfort and to speak to a member of clergy, I would arrange for it to be done without your aunts presence.
My Father was a Minister. That would be so very very out of character for him - we would questioned it too - and likely would have brought his Pastor in anyway.