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Someone with behavioral issues needs to have a good psych eval and medical intervention--could be medication or cognitive therapy. Many contributers seem to think medications should be vigorously avoided, but in reality, though often misused or over used, when properly used can significantly improve quality of life. Personally, although over 60 I take no prescription meds at present, but have through my life needed and appreciated appropriate medication.
First, educate yourself about the suggested medication. Weigh the risk/benefit ration. Consult with a trusted health professional.
Your mom's life could be greatly improved if this med helps make up for the loss of neuro chemical the elderly fail to continue to make for themselve in adequate amounts.
Like I said .. not sure that's helpful in your situation.
As for the results of the eval, I endorse the others' suggestions: get your mom's physician in the circle, be sure all the necessary end-of-life paperwork is finalized (you DON'T want to have to deal with it if she's found incompetent to make legal and medical conditions, later). At this point YOU are her advocate, just do your best!
Blessings.
An ALF cannot force someone to take a drug, but they can ask that she be moved out of their facility if they can't handle her.
their neighbors.
That is cruel and unusual punishment, and also pure laziness on the
part of all the caregivers. Zoloft is a very specific drug for a very
specific purpose. Namely, depression.
I genetically inherited Bi-Polar Manic depression which began at 16 yrs. in 1977. I'm now 51.
Zoloft, Neurontin, Buspar, and Seroquel have been lifesavers for me.
You have no idea of how painful, heart wrenching and debilitating a
full-blown mental illness is to suffer through.
Now, it took me 18 years to realize that Manic is a medical definition
and it is in no way related to Maniac. No one wants to be deemed
crazy, so I bucked taking my medication.
Your Mom may be making the logical assumption that if I take Zoloft,
then I'm indeed crazy.
You have to find out from her what she thinks about this medication.
The placebo effect is well documented and it may be harmful to her
psyche to take the meds, because if she does then she is admitting that
she indeed is crazy and may enter into a downward spiral.
Unless she has documented and properly diagnosed depression from a Phd
Psychiatrist, I think Zoloft is the wrong choice for dementia.
I think that you should be ashamed at yourself, and the entire staff at the
facility should be fired for abusing the drug Zoloft just ' to calm the
old bat down '.
A proper diagnosis is in order, and I would hire an outside Phd
Psychiatrist that is in her medical insurance network to make a house
call who has no ties whatsoever with the facility.
He or She would have your mom's best interest in mind, and might very
well reprimand the staff.
Don't wait for 'them' to force a psych evaluation which will simply be
a kangaroo court to force her to take meds. That is a violation of
Love on your part.
Please get an outside full-blown MD Psychiatrist not a Psychologist to
evaluate your Mom for dementia, depression or simple anxiety.
There are much better drugs on the market for dementia.
I cared for my dad with my girlfriend in his home until he took his
last breath.
Facilities are lazy and they don't hire the best of nurses.
Make frequent unannounced visits.
You would be surprised what you will find.
We came late one night unannounced when Dad was in a regular hospital
for a time, and they didn't change his bed pan for 3 hours even though
he called them every 20 min to do so.
They were too busy texting their boyfriends.
Don't just use Zoloft as an excuse for a clean a professional diagnosis
that both you and your mother can trust.
Caring for the elderly in this day and age is a industry, and they just
want to shove them in and shove them out, and hurry up and die, so you
won't annoy me anymore -- all the while getting paid exorbitant amounts of money to be a ' caregiver '.
I have a strong feeling that the facility is just using Zoloft as an
excuse.
Have the outside MD properly evaluate your mom, and it may take some
time to come up with the right medication that will help her be her and
you to have a clear conscious that you are doing all you can to Love
your Mom with the best care.
Seems to me that they just want to drug her to shut her up, and she's
not stupid, and can probably pick that up.
That's why she's bucking on taking it -- she don't want to give them
the pleasure of changing her brain chemistry just to make their job
easier.
If they didn't want 12hr shifts of caregiving, then they need to get
into another profession, not abuse the elderly.
I expect some decent well thought out replies to this, because I lived
through it both personally and with my dad.
He didn't need any psychotropics, I did.
Sincerely,
Burt B.
If possible, I would like to edit it out. I guess it was over-reacting on my part because of how Dad was treated in various facilities, and the fact that I do use Zoloft on a regular basis. I just don't want the primary person here abused. I apologize personally to the daughter as she is honestly inquiring what are her options in this particular case. I hope my mis-use of the word shame will not gloss over the points I made. I guess I'm just mad that they would force Zoloft on someone who may not need it.
As for Lawyers refusing to do legal documents and let a person sign them?? HA! Lawyers cannot diagnose.
IF the person appears, even remotely, to be capable of signing documents, they'll let them. Believe me, one brother in law found a lawyer who had made a great career of forming "plum" estates to manage, not just for himself, but for his son, also a lawyer....the brother in law took fragile G'ma to him, lead her into changing her already set up legal affairs to his favor--totally overturning everything she'd so carefully set up, in ways that she'd NEVER have done, EVER, had she been in her sound mind still...but she still presented a semi-capable mannerism, and it WAS her brother in law--very solicitously caring in his manner.
This kind of scenario is very common.
==DO get her a Psych eval--AFTER you have gotten her legal paperwork all set up.
That anti-depressant is NOT grounds for the Nursing Home to be saying that sort of threat...
==Mom probly has other behaviors they cannot manage.
IF she is having outbursts, an antidepressant is not for that--it is to prevent a person becoming terribly depressed, only.
ALSO, keep in mind, it is a patient's legal right to refuse meds--even the ones who are out of their minds. At least, it has been so at nursing homes I worked in--we were told to do everything we could to get them to take their prescribed meds, but if that failed, then, chart it as "patient refused".
A facility that forces medications, sounds rather out-of-line, and certainly putting themselves on a legal cliff.
Trying to force a patient to take an antidepressant?? Seriously??
IF a patient refused to take meds that keep their breathing open, their heart beating...that might present a greater risk of the person dying fairly quickly after refusing that medicine.
If a patient prescribed anti-psychotic meds refuses, & becomes a serious behavior threat to themselves or others soon after refusing the medication, THAT could be a problem.
But an anti-depressant? The patient is elderly...they may become more depressed--but that usually gives some time to work to change that--either a different medication, or, finding that the antidepressant was the wrong thing to give---but it does not usually become a life-or-death matter for refusing an antidepressant; a depressed person is not very likely to act out and harm others.
The nursing home seems in error for issuing that kind of ultimatum.
But it might help work in favor of better handling of your Mom's estate, if you immediately get legal documents signed [if you don't already have them....THEN do get that psych eval--because that might result in her getting better oversight of her actually necessary meds.
As for facilities 'drugging' the elderly so they're easier to deal with, I'm sure it's done. I'm also sure it's not as widespread as families think it is. A person's family members come for visits. They don't see what happens in the wee hours of the night, they often don't really see how their family member interacts with staff and other residents, they rarely see the kind of anxiety their family member is dealing with every waking hour.
They see mom or dad when they're excited to have a visitor, putting on their best face for their children.
I've seen people in a CONSTANT state of agitation and high anxiety - completely distraught all day and night - whose adult children don't want them 'drugged'. It's truly abusive when someone's pain can be eased and their children refuse because they think the staff just wants mom or dad to be 'easy' to care for!
Valjab
" Both my aunt and later my mom we're on an anxiolytic called Buspar. Worked very well for both of them. "
She wanted me to pass this along.
-- Burt B.
I think it would do you well to try and investigate Buspar, an anti-anxiety medication.
I personally use it 3 times a day, and it has a lot of solid research behind it.
Maybe it will take off the edge of your aggravated and abusive mom.
Just be sure to get a full-blown psychological work-up from an outside doctor that you hire in her medical insurance network.
You need an unbiased opinion.
As a mental health patient, these are my heartfelt observations.
Please follow-up on the progress in your situation.
-- Burt B.
Even those with any dementia, can refuse meds, sometimes it's in their best interests to get them to take them, despite their refusals, as they are not in a rational mind....but that is dependent on proper evaluations.
The suggestion to hide meds in her applesauce or pudding, is a good one.
That usually works for elders who have some dementia, and cannot understand or be made to understand, why they need to take meds.
She sounds like she could use a proper evaluation.
When a patient has difficult behaviors, sometimes the facility might try to get meds to help control the behaviors--which might be preferable to allowing the patient to act out, disrupt or cause harm to other patients and staff.
...and it's likely preferable to them telling you to take her home with you!
Psych meds these days are not perfect, and elders can be overly sensitive and may need smaller doses, but the meds can be far better than allowing very disruptive behaviors to cause other unfortunate consequences.
From the expanded details you offered, she needs other help than antidepressant. An abusive or emotionally escalated person is usually -not- able to control themselves--that does -not- sound like antidepressant territory.
Please do get her evaluated to learn what might be right for her needs--whether it is other meds, or rearranging the ones she currently has prescribed. Or something else.
Please keep us posted!