Mom is in her late 90's, still in independent living, refusing to move, although with her dementia getting worse she doesn't do anything for herself and is often confused, can't remember anything, etc. She has not taken a shower in years and six months ago, stopped washing completely. The soap has been in the dish, dry as a bone for the past 3 months and there are never used towels or washcloths. Obviously she is not even washing her hands with soap, let alone any other part of her body. Of course she lies and says she is bathing. She refuses our help, won't let an aide in the door! Certainly this is detrimental to her health, especially since she abuses laxatives and loses control and wears depends. We have given up, she doesn't cooperate with us at all. If we move her to assisted living will they make her bathe?