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Though I have POA, my mom is still able to make many decisions regarding her health

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No. You aren’t legally required to disclose anything to them. You are actually supposed to respect your moms privacy & maintain confidentiality unless otherwise instructed. If she wants to give her children updates, she can. Since she is still able to ask decisions, why not ask her what she wants you to do? While you shouldn’t be sharing her private information without her permission, it is often better to be transparent with your siblings & keep them informed. When it seems the POA sibling is withholding information, the other siblings feel left out & suspect there is something shady going on. I would just ask your mom if she wants you to keep the siblings informed and what she wants you to share with them.
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I second everything that WorriedinCali has just said.

But why do you ask? Is there already a problem, actually, or are you exploring the principles/ethics of the issue just to be prepared?
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Your POA, unless immediate, is not in effect unless Mom has been found incompetent. This u need to tell your siblings.

Once Mom is found incompetent then the POA can be enforced. Read it carefully and see what authority you have been given.

Answer to your question...no you do not need to give updates on Mom once the POA is in effect. You are her representative. Her finances are to be kept private just like u were her. Personally, I don't see a problem with occasional updates on her health. Your siblings are her children too. Think, how Mom would handle this.
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worriedinCali Oct 21, 2019
How do you know the POA isn’t in affect Joann? You have not read the document. Not trying to be rude at all but it’s been pointed out many times that unless springing, a POA can go in to affect the moment it is signed, and the principle does not have to be incompetent or incapacitated
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I agree with Worried. Transparency is best. Ask Mom what she wants you to tell. As an accountant I’ve seen big family fights because POA was secretive with siblings. So unnecessary.
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JoAnn29 Oct 21, 2019
They are "secretive" because they don't understand what a POA is. They act like its a guardianship.
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