I am trying to be short and vague. Hubby's mother lives nearby in an assisted living facility. None of her other kids live in our state, it's hubby, me and our adult kids. She has had issues for the 30 years I've known her, but it's gotten so much worse. First of all, she was always in a fog. I saw an old picture of her and noticed even back then, her eyes just look dead. She's had delusions before, but it always seemed either to be the result of her abusing prescription drugs or she just wants attention. When my mother was dying, MIL was all, "Me, me, look at meeee!" Ditto for when her husband died. The first words out of her mouth when she found out her husband had died were, "What am I going to do now?" She is horrid. So, now she is in assisted living and they control her medicine so she's not abusing. She has had a UTI for a couple of weeks, at least, and the antibiotics don't seem to be helping. I don't know if the UTI has caused her current "episode" or if it's something else but she is hallucinating and exhibiting symptoms of extreme paranoia. She's made threats towards people she thinks are going to hurt her.
She will probably be "Baker Acted" soon and I am trying not to think about what will happen if she can't go back to her facility, I told my husband many years ago I would not live in a house with her.
Hubby is at the end of his rope. Now, he's concerned he could get fired because he is taking off so much time to deal with her. I haven't told him, but he's sounding like her, just not as bad. My other big fear is that she's turning him into her and then I'll have 2 of them.
He's early 50s, she's over 80. A few minutes ago, he wandered out of our bedroom. Did you have a nice nap? I don't know. Do you want to watch some TV? I don't know. Then he went back into our room.
He needs a break, I know he needs a break, she is toxic and is poisoning him to death. By extension, she is poisoning our family.
Any advice or help or sympathy or anything? Are we horrible if we keep in touch with her caregivers, so we know what's going on, but just stay away for a while? He has been going to see her at least 3 times a week and I think that's too many but he didn't ask me.