We have been together 22 years. We were happy and did a lot of things together. He was in a wheelchair when we met. (SCI). A yr ago he was hospitalized for a pressure sore and also was diagnosed with dementia. I was an EMT and did not notice any unusual behavior. Several months ago, he became very nasty at times and would call me awful names. Several times he struck me in the face. He also tried to break my arms. He ran into my legs with his scooter. I am diabetic and have pain issues with my legs. He is a VA patient but does not go to his doctor. He is 76 yrs old. I am 74 yrs old. At 18 yrs, I got married and had a family with a man that turned out to be very abusive. I stayed with him for over 30 yrs raising my children. The situation I am in today is horrible. I love him and try to help him but what do I do? I care for my mother who lives with us. She is 98 and a half yrs old and has Altzheimers. She is almost bedfast. Oh.. I am blind in one eye and starting to lose sight in the other from diabetes. He is like this several days a week. He refuses to bathe, eat, take his meds etc. If I try to coax him, he gets very violent. Please tell me what you think!!