Although I live over 400 miles from my aging mother, my two siblings who live in the same town as her think I should leave my family for long periods of time to spend extensive time as live in caregiver. They don't want to spend any of her funds for any outside care. Neither will they agree, or is she willing to come to my home where she is more than welcome to stay as long as she wishes. Is it reasonable for me to abandon my family at home to go out of state when neither my mother or siblings are willing to make efforts to accomodate my life? Presently she is staying alternatively with the two in town siblings.