Has anyone had any luck with senior day care?

I found a very nice Senior Day Care run by a progressive church nearby. It would have been perfect for Mom if she had been able to adapt to it. They were trained, full of heart, provided structured and unstructured time -- I had no qualms about leaving her there a couple of times a week. Nonetheless, my mother is not a social animal, needed extra attention, and would refuse to go more often than not, so it did not work out for us. Good luck to you!

I did go away for 4 days recently and he took off work and they ate almost every meal out. I came home to a messy house and no laundry done. What did I expect? Haha! It's not that she's hard to deal with, it's the day in day out tedium. There is almost no way for him to experience that. I just need to stand my ground I guess. I do like Babalou's no BS attitude though!! Gave me a much needed laugh! Thanks

I've only had experience with 2 senior day care centers. One was in a senior apartment complex, on the first floor. I passed through it on my way to a classroom where I taught quilting. The area was open, people were mingling and seemed to be comfortable in the situation.

The second was exactly the opposite; it was a smaller area, decorated attractively but closed in by locked doors. Just viewing it gave me a sense of claustrophobia. The "guests" seemed depressed, some with thousand yard stares. After seeing that I knew that I would never under any circumstances take my father there, even if he ever did need day care (which he doesn't).

I would tour several before making a decision. But I would also make arrangements to be away for an entire day on Saturday, or a day when your husband is off, and let him take over the responsibilities. That's the only way he'll understand what you're going through.

Better yet, I like Babalou's suggestion - take a whole week off.

Call the Adult Day Care. They will meet with you and her.. Mom was hesitant but now she likes it.. Just call and get an appointed!!! Youneed the break... She needs the social time, she's just afraid of the unknown...

Arrange to be away for a week. Tell him he's in charge of his mom's care