I've written about my father before, a very stubborn man, but I have kind of a specific question, "how to get him to realize he really has a problem and that meds can help".
My father goes through periods of time where he's mostly OK, but he'll spin himself up in a cocoon of anxiety which is pretty miserable. About 6 months ago I got him to try Zoloft, he did it for a month, the doctor upped the prescription slight, he got headaches and stopped. Thank god we did this though because we were selling off some of my mother's property and we never would have done it without the Zoloft.
Last week he called me in a total state, practically begging me to get him some Zoloft. I made him contact his GP, who gave the go-ahead for it. Three days in he gets the sweats (a very common side-effect), decides he's not going to take it anymore and that's that.
Note: just because there's a 6 month interval doesn't mean this isn't a regular occurrence, it's always there.
I think, maybe, he's going to talk to his GP about it, maybe try something else, I don't know. The plain truth is I'm certain he just doesn't want to take it.
And look, he's got reasons for anxiety, he can't see, he can't hear (hearing aids down (new one's incoming I hope)), Covid, Fox News, he's 90, etc. And he lives alone, won't accept any help with the house in any fashion or any shape.
Maybe this post is more about me, because frankly I'm just plain tired of this BLEEP! Everything is a fight! I don't think that there has been a single thing I've done for him in the last few years that wasn't either a direct fight or a low grade resistance on his part ("we can talk about that later").
The thing about the meds is, he's clearly miserable. When he was on the Zoloft there was a noticeable difference. He even admits it took the worst of it off. I can state that when he came off it the first time, I knew really quickly something had changed.
Sometimes, when he calls me, wrapped up in the anxiety, I want to say, "tough bleep, dude, you made the choice to be miserable." And, of course, the thing about mental health, it's not really all their choice.
Honestly, I'm just frustrated.