She is 89 and in a wheelchair with a spinal cord injury. She has severe balance issues and wears a gait belt for transfers. I can get her on the toilet, but she can't get her thighs apart enough to wipe herself. She's afraid she'll fall and I am too if she leans too far forward. We have grab bars but again balance is a problem. I've looked at toileting aids and they all seem designed for people who don't have this issue. She is in an apartment so we can't install anything new. Has anyone else had this problem?