One week's worth of clothing, but extra socks and underwear on top of that. Shoes, slippers, robe, pajamas. Put his name on every single item, and I recommend those sew-in tags rather than laundry markers, because the markers do wash out and the iron-on ones fall off eventually.
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Personal items -- toothbrush, toothpaste, body wash, glasses, razor (if allowed), Kleenex if it isn't provided. Name written on everything.
Books if he wants them, personal photos. Be cognizant of the space he's alloted, because if he doesn't have much space don't clutter it up with too much. You can start with bringing very little and bring more if needed.
Ball cap with his military patch, photos of family members and maybe his military friends, any games he likes to play (Walmart still sells handheld Gameboy), auto books or real books starting with the "The Greatest Generation," by Tom Brokaw. Music, in some form that he enjoys or remembers fondly. If he's taking a computer, a subscription to his hometown newspaper, Memory Game Subscription, Luminosity.
Lots of comfortable and decent looking lounge pants and colorful t-shirts (long and short sleeves). A couple of nice looking lightweight jackets. Toiletries of course. His favorite candies, mints and maybe popcorn subscription if he likes it https://opopop.com/collections/discovery-kits/products/pop-cups-discovery-kit). Letters from home, letters from family and friends and FaceTime calls......of course, there's nothing sweeter than personal visits that include laughter and hugs and a short trip outside in the warmth of the sun.
A classmate had posted a picture of the WWII hat she bought for her Dad who was in a NH. I went in to visit my Mom who was in Rehab in the same building. Mr R had lost a lot of weight and aged. If it wasn't fot that hat I would have walked right past him. He was glad to see a familiar face.
Put his name on all clothing items so that when they get washed they don't go astray. Any type of entertainment for him would be good like cards, tablet if he knows how to work one so that you two can keep in touch. Have his phone with all the numbers so that he can call be on a plan so that you don't have to put minutes in it manually. Any type of personal items that he would need including pictures of you and the family. If he has a favorite chair see if you can bring it along with him. Any type of blankets in case he gets cold. If he has a favorite pillow take it.
Less is more. (This advice is more for those whose LOs have memory issues.) When we did this move the first time, we placed all sorts of knick-knacks from home around: pieces of art she had made over the years, vases, little sculptures, fancy coasters for the little coffee table, favorite DVDs. Again, all from home, to recreate a sense of home for her.
Well the coffee table ended up shoved behind the La-Z-Boy that she refused to sit in, the vases and sculptures and art ended up hidden behind the toilet or in bags stuffed in the back of her closet, the DVDs ended up hidden behind the couch, the family photos were under the couch cushions, and the fancy coasters got stuffed in the purse she never used except to hide her things away and then forget she did that. Not only did she hide her own things away in odd places, but she'd taken decor items that belonged to the facility and done the same.
For move #2, it got a lot more basic. Necessities, but fewer things that she was just going to find a hiding place for.
When it comes to photos, consider if it’s something you’d want a duplicate of. We had a family member that destroyed many of the photos his wife brought in that were irreplaceable. They were thrown away so she couldn’t even retrieve the pieces.
Wow. Hard to imagine what’s going through their mnds when they do something like that.
My aunt (alzheimers) lost most of her memories relating to a 15-year block of time. She and her husband did a lot of traveling w a group of friends and she had a big photo album of all the trips and countless parties. I brought her the album to sit and go through and talk about during a visit. She got VERY distressed. She recognized herself and her husband in the pics, but NOBODY else! She got angry and vocal, confused by the pics of them obviously having a great time with strangers.
She slammed it closed after a couple of pages and yelled at me to take it away.
she had another photo album of her and husband’s 60th wedding anniversary party. She looked at it every day. Many times she acted like it was the first time she saw those pics. Sometimes she remembered the event.
Keeperofthegate, This move will be a separation for the two of you. As you age, and as your husband ages, is there a possibility that the two of you might qualify for assisted living together in the home?
No reply necessary if you have already considered this as an option.
There are some really good suggestions that you have been given! What my relative enjoyed was a small cd player wroth head phones so as not to bother others, but we got him several audio books. He loved them. Also, not sure if they allow it, but a small smart tv that he can use his ear phones with so as not to bother others. Again, everything needs to be marked.
Do not take every piece of clothing in the closet. Start packing only the clothing found in the laundry hamper over a period of 2 weeks. Because that is an easy way to determine what is being used.
Take a favorite chair, favorite things, things being used.
The professional advice was meant to choose from the laundry used over a period of two weeks. Yes, that is 14 days. If that is wayyy too many clothes, you can bring some home. Or take less. JoAnn's advice was excellent: " "You will find yourself taking things in and taking things home."
Of course you won't be taking anything not allowed, or anything that there is no room allotted. That is just common sense.
The husband is going to a War Veterans home. It does not say what level of care, SNF, LTC, AL, or Memory Care will be at the home.
Maybe check with the facility for a list of suggested items. Take less if he is sharing a room.
I would ask the laundress if they tag clothing. At Moms NH the machine they used to tag the labels did not come off. To get them off, they had to use the machine to get them off. They tag everything but shoes.
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Personal items -- toothbrush, toothpaste, body wash, glasses, razor (if allowed), Kleenex if it isn't provided. Name written on everything.
Books if he wants them, personal photos. Be cognizant of the space he's alloted, because if he doesn't have much space don't clutter it up with too much. You can start with bringing very little and bring more if needed.
Lots of comfortable and decent looking lounge pants and colorful t-shirts (long and short sleeves). A couple of nice looking lightweight jackets. Toiletries of course. His favorite candies, mints and maybe popcorn subscription if he likes it https://opopop.com/collections/discovery-kits/products/pop-cups-discovery-kit). Letters from home, letters from family and friends and FaceTime calls......of course, there's nothing sweeter than personal visits that include laughter and hugs and a short trip outside in the warmth of the sun.
Prayers to you and your family
Well the coffee table ended up shoved behind the La-Z-Boy that she refused to sit in, the vases and sculptures and art ended up hidden behind the toilet or in bags stuffed in the back of her closet, the DVDs ended up hidden behind the couch, the family photos were under the couch cushions, and the fancy coasters got stuffed in the purse she never used except to hide her things away and then forget she did that. Not only did she hide her own things away in odd places, but she'd taken decor items that belonged to the facility and done the same.
For move #2, it got a lot more basic. Necessities, but fewer things that she was just going to find a hiding place for.
My aunt (alzheimers) lost most of her memories relating to a 15-year block of time. She and her husband did a lot of traveling w a group of friends and she had a big photo album of all the trips and countless parties. I brought her the album to sit and go through and talk about during a visit. She got VERY distressed. She recognized herself and her husband in the pics, but NOBODY else! She got angry and vocal, confused by the pics of them obviously having a great time with strangers.
She slammed it closed after a couple of pages and yelled at me to take it away.
she had another photo album of her and husband’s 60th wedding anniversary party. She looked at it every day. Many times she acted like it was the first time she saw those pics. Sometimes she remembered the event.
This move will be a separation for the two of you.
As you age, and as your husband ages, is there a possibility that the two of you might qualify for assisted living together in the home?
No reply necessary if you have already considered this as an option.
Hoping that your needs will be considered. 🙂
Start packing only the clothing found in the laundry hamper over a period of 2 weeks.
Because that is an easy way to determine what is being used.
Take a favorite chair, favorite things, things being used.
JoAnn's advice was excellent: "
"You will find yourself taking things in and taking things home."
Of course you won't be taking anything not allowed, or anything that there is no room allotted. That is just common sense.
The husband is going to a War Veterans home. It does not say what level of care, SNF, LTC, AL, or Memory Care will be at the home.
Maybe check with the facility for a list of suggested items.
Take less if he is sharing a room.
Shampoo
Soap
Toothbrush
toothpaste
Kleenex
Lotions
2 sets of towels and sheets
Clothing must be labeled.