My mother on 24/7 oxygen, but loves her home,cats,books. In last 6 months her incontinence is so severe I cannot keep up. Nurses will come once or twice, then resign because of "feces on the floor." She is 85 years old. Twice she has been placed in very nice Assisted Living places, only to return home after hundreds of calls to daughters, friends that she will commit suicide, etc. I have hired a home cleaning service with heavy equipment for floors, but my sister - an RN - insists she must go back to assisted living. Sometimes she will wear heavy duty Depends, sometimes she forgets or chooses not to. The worst part is the devastating affect of this incontinence psychologically. Do I keep her home or put her back in Assisted Living where she descends into depression?