What is a good anti-depressant for someone with dementia?

Thank you both for your helpful answers. My cousin has not planned a memorial service, but we are going to have an urn w/ my Aunt's ashes, and do a small service for just a few of us. I think that will help my Mom. She seems a bit better w/ each day, but is dreaming about my Aunt, and talks about it every day, but gradually seems to have accepted that she is gone. But in a better place with all of our loved ones who went before her. That makes her feel better. Thank you again for your compassion and your answers. Grief just takes it's good old time, as we all know, huh? Happy Holidays to you all.

Jeanne is so spot-on as always. Greaving is normal and quite different from depression. I'm remembering 6 weeks as normal with double that for those with whom you were extremely close to whether or not they were family.

One thing to consider is that the antidepressant meds take about 4 - 8 full weeks to reach the desired level in your body and you have to be pretty religious in taking them and at the same time otherwise the meds can be either useless or make them more anxious or worse. You have to think about if your mom can do this or if you or someone else needs to be counted on to do this and will. Personally I'd wait a couple more weeks to see how she is balancing out her emotions. Good luck.

Antidepressant medications may not be more effective than placebos in the treatment of depression in older adults who also have dementia, and the risks of antidepressant treatment may outweigh the benefits, particularly if the depression is not severe, according to two studies published this year. Between 20 percent and 40 percent of people with dementia experience a diagnosis depressive disorder, nearly half major depression. This condition not only can be painful, it also increases risks of physical illness, disability and premature mortality.
In addition, it often results in decline in cognitive and functional capacity over and above the decline that results from dementia alone. Depression appears to have a particularly negative impact on "instrumental activities of daily living," including preparing meals, housework, managing finances, shopping, caring for others, etc.

Clearly, overcoming depression is important for people with dementia. But, recent studies have failed to demonstrate that antidepressants improve depression more than the attention received by participating in a research study.

I am a big believer in anti-depressants for depression. A doctor who know the situation, the patient's history, and other medications can select the most likely drug ... but even then there may need to be adjustments. One size does not fit all!

But grieving is not the same as depression. If Mom did not show signs of depression before her sister's death I think I would wait a while and see if this diminishes. No harm in talking to her doctor about it now, but I think I'd wait before starting a drug.

Is there no memorial service planned? My husband's body was cremated, as was my father's, and in both cases the service was comforting and gave a sense of closure. I don't know if that would have helped your mother to accept the finality of her sister's passing, but it probably would have helped you.

cernahome12, thanks for sharing this. I'm a strong proponent of drug testing, before and after drugs hit the market. My husband participated (as a subject) for 9 years in an international effort to study lipids and the effect of lowering the "bad" lipids on heart attacks. I was a subject in a study that was supposed to last 4 years but was stopped after 1 years because of a higher rate of suicide attempts in the group that was taking the drug (!!) That drug never saw a drugs store shelf. So, I do find great value in these kinds of studies.

But when a study seems to contradict observed experience, I wonder why. In this case I think that in real life when a good doctor prescribes antidepressants for someone with dementia (or anyone else) he or she watches the results carefully, adjusts dosage and/or changes to a different drug based on the observations. The doctor is aiming for the optimum drug treatment. I suspect in the study one drug was used and probably at the same dose for everyone. But we already know that one size does not fit all. It would certainly not be a surprise to me that the wrong drug at the wrong dose isn't effective.

I have read about studies (one in England, I think) that show Aricept is only effective in about 3% of all cases. By "effective" they meant it delayed entry into a nursing home. But for the caregiver and the patient "effective" is more likely to be about quality of life up to the point of needing skilled nursing care. Also many other studies have shown that while Aricept may have minor impact in Alzheimer's (for which it was developed) it has a much bigger impact in Lewy Body Dementia. If your loved one was among the 3% of AD patients it really helped by the study standards, or if it helped your loved one have a higher quality of life even if it didn't slow down the progress, or your loved one had LBD, you'd not want insurance companies to base their decision about covering Aricept on that study in England.

Studies are awesome and necessary. They don't always prove what they seem to prove and a few studies may not be conclusive and may only indicate the value of more studies.

My mom (90 with dementia) is on Seroquel and triamterene (maxide?); zoloft. These are helping with hallucinations, agitation, paranoia I think but she doesn't like how they make her feel. Some of the literature says they are not recommended for dementia patients but these were prescribed recently by psychiatrist so I'm letting her try them and giving them time to get used to them. I think the drugs are fine (with supvervision) but would encourage Geriatric psychiatrist and interaction with others to give her chance to talk about her feelings and gain some reassurance. If she has dementia, this may be a "loop" asking about her sister over and over that she may never get over and can't accept the reality even when you try to gently give her the truth. Maybe you can just let her discuss it; acknowledge her feelings and her "reality" and then try to redirect her. I think the above drugs might be helpful for the depression. My mom is on very low doses and the some are split between morning and nights.

I'm so sorry for your loss.. it sounds like you and your mom were an amazing support system for her sister.
To answer your question, when my grandma was first diagnosed with dementia the Dr. gave her Zoloft.. at the time he said a lot of elderly patients show signs of depression with the onset of dementia but I know in your moms case, this has been intensified by the sudden loss of her sister. We did notice a small change in my grandma after she had been taking the Zoloft for a few weeks though. Obviously, because of dementia, she was still forgetful and had a hard time wrapping her mind around things, but she did regain some of the interest in her tv shows/crafts/word puzzles after the medication and didn't just sit and zone out all day like she did before the meds.