Mom is 94 and wants to go to the hospital for every tiny thing. There have been so many false alarms that we stopped being concerned about it. But at that age we are scared that we may not recognize the real thing from the fake one. With Covid -19, we cant go in with her. We just have to drop her off at the ER. I worry that she will get sick being around the Hospital so much. She doesn't care about Covid -19 . She is more important than it is.
Constantly wanting something from the Store, or fast food take out, insists on seeing the Dr in person , no zoom visits.
Today she called a taxi and went to the ER on her own. My husband and I were both home and available. I was in the kitchen when I heard the front door open and close. At the same time my husband was coming in the back door, so I was surprised to see him because I thought it was him at the front. Then it hit me. So, I told him to run and check the front. Sure enough she was getting into a cab. He got there just in time to ask where she was going. She answered "The Hospital". When he ask why, she replied "It doesn't matter" What is that supposed to mean? Should we talk to her Dr about some other form of treatment for her or ourselves?
If you are able to, I would still talk to her Dr, just to make sure nothing serious is going on with her, and he might be able to offer some suggestions. Good luck.
This is pre Covid. One time my mom kept saying that she didn’t feel right. I could tell that she was scared.
I took her to the hospital and her blood pressure was very low. They discontinued her BP meds. Mom knows when something is off or different.
It’s so hard to know when it’s serious or not. I had lots of trips to the doctor and hospital with my mom, also in her nineties, with Parkinson’s disease. My mom has mobility issues so there are falls. Many trips to the hospital were fall related. She is now under hospice care.
I do understand the stress that the poster is going through. I think all caregivers do.
I wonder if the poster is her mom’s POA. Yes, hopefully it will get sorted out.
Covid on top of everything wrecks everyone’s nerves!
If it turns out your Mom likes seeing other people at the hospital, maybe it is time for her to move to Independent Living at a senior facility, if she can budget for that. My Dad did that and he had wished he would have moved years earlier. He enjoyed being around so many people closer to his generation, as there was so much to talk about regarding their past. Plus the facility had a nurse on duty 24 hours a day.