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I am my father's POA, he is in a skilled nursing home in Nebraska. I have been using his social security to pay his financial obligation each month. Two months ago he told me that he needed some things and to pay a few debts and that he had a motorcycle selling and get the money back that way to pay the obligations for those two months and so I did it and then come to find out there is no money coming, he has no other money anywhere nor does he own a car or house. I don’t have the money to pay for it either! But he was transferred to a different skilled nursing home and the old nursing home wants the money for the two months he was behind, can they come after me for the money?

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MrsHughes, What do you mean by "I did that."? Do you mean that instead of paying the nursing home first with the Social Security income, you bought some items for your father? What did you buy and how much did these items cost?

You should always pay the nursing home first and then use whatever is left over for your father's other expenses. In this case, I think that the nursing home can come after you for the money because it was Social Security income. If the income had been from his retirement fund or another source of income, then most likely not. But by using the Social Security income to pay for non-nursing home items before you paid the nursing home, you basically committed "fraud".

Why was your Father transferred to a different skilled nursing home? Was it because you did not give your Father's Social Security income directly to the first nursing home?

What sources of income does your Father have to pay for the nursing home besides Social Security? Is he a Veteran? If so, he might qualify for some VA funds. Has he applied for Medicaid?
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MrsHughes, What do you mean by "be 2 months late on vacation he new"?

Contact the old nursing home and explain that you thought that your Father was supposed to get some money for a motorcycle that he was selling. However, the bank has informed him and you that there is NO money coming back. Thus you would like to set up a payment schedule and pay a certain amount (such as 30% or 40% of 1 months payment each time) until the debt is paid. Apologize that you misunderstood your Dad and that is why you bought the items instead of paying them. Then go the bank and set up a Automatic Payment Plan so that the payment to the first nursing home is sent on a specific date (the 15th of the month). ALWAYS check your Dad's checking account monthly to make sure that the Automatic Payment was sent by the bank.
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I need to clarify something. After thinking about your situation, I am not sure if you will be responsible for the 2 months at the first nursing home because you used the Social Security income to pay for non-nursing home items before you paid the nursing home.

I was thinking of MEDICAID and a situation that I knew of where a resident's daughter received the Medicaid checks and instead of paying the nursing home for her Mom's care, she spent the money on herself (for at least 5-7 months). So the resident was transferred to a facility that was lower price and not owned by a for-profit company. I think that the daughter was in trouble legally, but I can't tell you what happened to her.
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MrsHughs,
Apply for Medicaid for him asap. If approved they will pay his medical bills from 3months prior to his application.

Also, that is his bill not yours. Ignore the phone calls or just block the number they are calling you from. 
Unless you signed a paper claiming responsibility for payment. Since his SS was enough to cover his portion of payment, I doubt this was the case.
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DeeAnna,
I think MrsH is saying, she sold Dad's motorcycle but didn't get any money for it.
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He is on Medicaid and has been since he got to the nursing home. He is not a veteran and lost everything, House, car, boat, after the accident. Yes I listened to him and believe him when he said he talked with the bank and that there was money coming and paid some bills he had so they didn’t go to collections and then he requested some things like hair clippers and other personal items, I made the mistake and have definitely learned I did the wrong thing and plan to set up for the new nursing home to be the payer of his SS checks from now on. My question is that I either need to use the next 2 months SS money to pay the old skilled nursing home there money back and be 2 months late on vacation he new or else just pay the new-however I don’t have the money to pay the 2 months for him so I don’t want them to come after me for it.
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Oh, DeeAnna was correct. I misunderstood. MrsHughs, I would pay the 2 months owed, and push vacation back a few months. If I've got this right.
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