I'm still shaking as I type this...
So, my sister (the one with the bratty, ungrateful kid that called me selfish) wanted to visit Dad for Easter. I was OK with her and her husband coming to visit, and I knew they would need some assistance with his new oxygen apparatus.
Imagine my surprise (and subsequent RAGE) when I walk through Daddy's door to find the bratty niece sitting on his sofa!!!!! I saw RED!!!!! I spun on my heels, walked out the door and slammed it. I knew that spending any time in that situation would potentially land me an assault charge. When I get that angry, I disengage in order to protect myself or the person on the receiving end of my wrath.
I had almost made it to the entrance of the facility when my sister walks outside. It was all downhill from there. Let's just say my language was colorful... something to the affect of "Get that ungrateful so-and-so out of my father's apartment" which she responded to with colorful language. I basically told her to go back upstairs and I left.
Mind you...other people were watching this in astonishment. So I now look unstable and crazy for blowing up.
The brat sent me a TEXT (notice how she can never speak to me directly) in response to the situation which I didn't even read.
I'm embarrassed on my behalf because I gave into stereotypical African American behavior (something I strive hard to fight against as an educated black woman) by yelling and cursing in the parking lot of a public place.
This just fuels the "family's" fire of me being erratic, unstable... blah blah blah.
I want to place a restraining order against this niece and have her on the do-not-visit list of my Dad's place. Is that selfish?
I really can not stand my whole family dynamic. It's always been dysfunctional, but Dad's illness just makes it worse.
I'm just exhausted. If I cut them off, I'll be the big bad daughter that's limiting Dad from seeing his "family" who didn't give a crap about him in the first place.
Am I abusing my POA by restraining them? Happy ______ing Easter.