My 78 yr old mother-in-law was diagnosed a year ago with early stage Alzheimer's and that she requires 24x7 "custodial care" but not "skilled care". As a result my husband lost his job to assume his new job of full time "custodial care" for his mom. Her monthly income is slightly above the Medicaid limit even though her assets have been progressively spent down over the last 4 years to where she has less than $2K in assets. (she wasn't a rich woman to begin with and neither are we)
In the last few months, she has required A LOT of assistance where we can't get sufficient sleep and we now need to take care of all her toileting needs. She can still walk but falls more. At what point does she get classified as needing skilled care? what is the criteria for skilled care in order for us to get help financially for respite care or long term care? Sundowning issues are emotionally draining and since she can't keep still and needs help up and with everything, it is physically draining. Really could use some regular respite care but need funds to do it. (FYI-She sold her condo (not much profit) and came to live with us 4 years ago because she couldn't take care of herself let alone a condo.) What are some of the things an Alzheimer's patient need that would require "skilled care" to qualify for help? Thanks in advance.