My dad and step mom are in assisted living. They both have dementia and my dad has stage 3 colon cancer. I have been taking my dad to his chemo appointments and have a home health service come in to stay with step mom while he's gone and the service stays there for 3 days because my dad has to wear a chemo pump for 46.5 hours and managed to take it off the first time. Step mom is now on Hospice - she's not eating, sleeping mostly, immobile, etc. I would like to have home health care services (companion care) come in to help my dad cope if/when she passes but it's not allowed due to Covid-19 restrictions even though they are isolated to their room. He doesn't realize she's dying and when she does....well, it won't go well for my dad. He's never been alone. They won't let me in either even though I sit in the Infusion room with him every other week for the past 4 months...4+ hours at a time. Any ideas? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Moving them in with me is not an option for many, many reasons.
I'm so sorry for what you're all going through.
Prayers to you and your family... lil