I am the only girl in a family of 4 children. My oldest brother is an alcoholic. He moved to my current state when things got bad in his neighborhood in our home state. He bought a house here, 2 blocks from me, and moved down. Than he had 3 strokes and double brain surgery. He continued to drink, and has a pill pusher for a Dr. This is a small town, and my health is failing, and I want to move to the city or back home for better health care. He refuses to move. Right now he is in ICU. He has another alcoholic, a friend since they were teens, taking care of him. It is not the best scenario. I have been caring for my brother on and off for 30+ years, and I am angry. I quit drinking when I was 25. I am now 54. It is not fair that just because I live near him, I have to take care of him. I am disabled due to mental problems. My other siblings live in DC and South Florida and say "What can we do from 1500 miles away". I love my brother dearly, but he made the choice to drink. Why should I have to be the designated caregiver for the rest of his, or my, life? He owns his home, but it is a dump. I want to sell my home and move, but I get grief from my family...and I feel guilty. We had nurses and physical therapists coming in to care for him, but he was mean and nasty and threw them out. They refuse to come back. If I just sell my house and move back home...1000 miles away....the guilt will kill me. If I stay here and care for him, the anger and stress will kill me. The stroke was caused by him getting drunk, falling down the stairs, and having a bleed on his brain. He is 60 and I don't know what to do. Has anyone been in this situation??