I am getting mentally ready for my 4 weeks of indentured servitude at my parents’ house beginning Tuesday.
My father now needs help going to the toilet. We have aides for the mornings and late afternoons. If he needs to go to the toilet when they are not there, I’m going to have to get him on and off the toilet and clean him afterwards. Does anyone have any tips on how they handle this task. I have never done this before.
Between not knowing how best to do it and never having seen my father naked below the waist, this is weighing heavily on me. I’m grateful for any tips and suggestions.
I would then call 911 and have him transported to the ER.
I would call APS and report him as a vulnerable adult.
I would call the local AAA and get a needs assessment.
I would then leave.
Toileting my incompetent parent would be a one off, not a month-long "sentence".
If my parent "chose" to rely upon my indentured service, I would step away and let the chips fall where they might. Sometimes you need to do that for foolish folks to get the help they need.
Just get lots of wet wipes ready and do your best. Nobody wants to do these things or likes doing them, but we sometimes find ourselves in such a position where we have no other choice. We do things out of love for our parents sometimes that we'd never imagine ourselves doing, but we come out of it alright in the end. I'm with you in thinking it is not humane to have a loved one sit in excrement.
Sending you a hug and a prayer that things will go smoothly for you during this 4 week period. Best of luck.
My sisters and I are going to speak to our mother when I'm back because we can no longer provide the care our father needs and our mother needs to make some decisions regarding my father's and her future care. We are going to be a united front, we are refusing to accept the status quo. I plan to tell my mother if she does not decide to go into AL or a NH with my father, I will be calling APS. Her daughters can no longer care for them and they are not safe living alone anymore. It's like leaving two toddlers alone in the house.
How old is dad and mom? I thought I read where they were in their nineties. Please don't injure your back trying to get dad off and in the toilet.
If it wasn't for your other siblings humoring your parents at this point with pretending they can still live independently they would be in a facility.
Shame on mom and dad for putting you in this predicament.
You could always refuse to wipe dad's privates and assisting him off and on the toilet.
I make it with lemon and eucalyptus oil and nobody has to deal with others bathroom odors.
I couldn't do it. My gag reflex starts and I exit or puke, those are the choices for me.
Oh my gosh, I giggled so hard when I first saw those poopouri commercials on tv.