Accounting from POA if parent is still competent?

Willie, good idea? Maggabelle, how did you handle the letter? Before I read Willie's comment, I was going to say maybe you should get Moms PCP to write a letter saying she is competent to handle her own affairs.

I think Mom chose the right person to be her POA. Too many times on this forum you read how a child abused their POA.

Reply to the lawyer and copy them all. Ask them to share all their personal, financial details with your mom. Ask for a list of assets, bills due and any life insurance or savings they have. Ask them for their credit rating. Ask what their income is and how they have spent their money.

Tell them when they have all sent those details to your mom, you will ask her if she would like to do the same for them.

They've actually had a lawyer send a letter demanding an accounting? They sound toxic, it may be time for you and mom to respond with a cease and desist letter from your own lawyer, at the same time the lawyer can draft a letter of competency showing your mom is still able to look after her own interests.

https://www.agingcare.com/articles/why-a-letter-of-competency-should-be-part-of-every-seniors-legal-file-441176.htm

It might be easier to appease your siblings if they have a specific question that is easily answered, if they just want to poke their noses into mom's affairs because they are pre-planning their inheritance I would have your mom to tell them to pizz off. As POA your responsibility is to carry out your mother's wishes, the only way a court will get involved is if they push it to that level. To protect yourself make sure you keep scrupulous record if they do.

Your POA only is effective if Mom is proven not to be able to handle her finances. Since your Mom is fully involved its not up to you to reveal her finances and you need to tell your siblings this. Mom does not want them to know. As POA you don't have to reveal the info either.

A POA is a tool. It gives the person assigned the ability to handle an incompetent persons finances and medical wishes if you have a Medical POA. The only thing your siblings could do was go to a lawyer and ask for an accounting if you personally were handling Moms finances. They can't ask for an accounting from Mom if she is competent.

Are your siblings afraid she will spend "their" inheritance? Mom owes them nothing. She can spend everything if she wants. Its her money not theirs. She has no obligation to leave them anything. Its her money, she worked for it.

The only thing I suggest is if you run errands that you pay for and then she reimburses you by check, keep the receipts with the check no. on them. You don't want to be accused of Mom "giving you money".

It would be a good thing to have the lawyer who drew up the POA explain to you how it works and your responsibilities once Mom becomes incompetent.