We've been caring for our LO who is in a nursing home. We are on the cusp of having our LO on Medicaid, and our attorney has advised us to not spend more than $35 of her monthly income on personal care items and services. Because this amount is so little and much of what we purchase for her routinely is done in cash, we've chosen instead of just absorb the costs ourselves on our limited income. For instance, we take our LO's laundry to a laundry mat rather than let the home do it (and lose it), and the laundry mat takes cash only. Clothes, shoes, and the small amount of toiletries we've also absorbed as either way too expensive for the monthly stipend amount or just mixed in with our own purchase. We are leery of writing checks to ourselves as co-guardians and managers of her social security. Are we being overly cautious? Is it acceptable to have her pay us $35 a month for various care steps in light of how difficult it would be to provide an accounting for the money? One of the reasons we're asking is that we'd like to ensure we have a stable amount going to the nursing home monthly, and feel that if she doesn't spend her $35, it should go to the home to cover her bill and large balance.