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I fully agree with Geaton. I’d bet the tub overflow is only your biggest issue and there are many more little fires that need attention. Sadly, this only gets worse. I saw this with my grandmother and our family’s valiant attempt to keep her wish to stay in her home and be independent. I hope you have POA and wish you the best in making changes for aunt
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A tiimer won't work because she won't know why it's going off. I would call a plumber to get some ideas that wouldn't cause you to spend a lot of money. Maybe some kind of sensor can be installed at the water meter that will allow only a certain amount of water to flow before shutting off.
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With short term memory loss you will just be chasing around trying to solve problems and preventing new ones. Not sure how much time you actually spend with her to know if she is really "managing" her finances, or anything else. We discovered that my MIL and her husband we both in a tailspin of decline even though we saw them often and only lived 6 miles from them. Once we started poking around and looking at their checkbooks (a disaster!) and realizing they were paying their ballooned mortgage but not having enough money to buy food, driving and falling in the grocery store parking lots and having to be driven back home by the kind manager, telling us they were taking their meds (and thinking they were but actually weren't)...and on. Trying to stop your aunt from overflowing her tub may eventually succeed with much effort. Then one day she may start leaving the heat on under a pot. If you are her durable PoA, I think you are at a juncture where you need to do what she needs, not what she wants. This won't be popular, as you already know. You are not obligated to be her live-in caregiver. A reputable agency can help provide an experienced caregiver who is experienced in getting someone like her to bath or shower. Maybe. You will need to decide how much energy you are willing to expend to keep her in her home where she is less and less "independent" with each passing week. If you are not her PoA, it will be pretty much impossible to legally make her do anything in her own best interests. You will need to pursue guardianship through the courts to be able to do that. If you don't do it, then you will need to call her county APS and report her as a vulnerable adult. The county will eventually become her guardian and then they will call all the shots of her care and where she resides and manage all her assets. You can still visit her and carry on your relationship, if they place her somewhere close. Please be careful about wearing yourself out in this situation as long-distance caregiving is strenuous and stressful. There are no "wrong" decisions in this, just what works best for the both of you. I wish you all the best. She is blessed to have you helping her!
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