I'm not sure if this is really a question or just a cry for help and/or feedback. My partner and I are in a difficult situation with my great-aunt. My partner (my aunt's friend - no blood relation) has POA for healthcare. My aunt's friend (90 yrs. old and has long managed my aunt's finances) has POA for finances.
Even as I read this, I can see what a mess this could become - and already is, to some extent.
The bottom line is that my aunt is deteriorating, with a general decline, and dementia. She is being evaluated today by a nurse for possible hospice care. We've tried to involve the friend w/ financial POA in this, and she has responded angrily, says she does not have POA for anything, and insinuates that we are trying to put something over on my aunt. As I write this, I am getting clarity, so thanks for listening, those of you who've read this far.
My partner and I are the primary caregivers, and frankly, we are stressed, exhausted and very concerned about my aunt. She is well over 100, still living alone, and slipping by the day. A nephew is here visiting, and the three of us are trying to mobilize more care, and hospice is a start. Have I said that my aunt is very mistrustful, in general, and becoming delusional and paranoid?
As I read over my own post, I see that, regardless of the drama here, we need more care for my aunt. period. And partner and I need to set boundaries and take care of ourselves. period. How this unfolds may be rocky and crazy, but it will have to happen. We may have problems getting any financial resources unlocked in case we need in-home care, but I guess that is tomorrow's problem. If someone does have POA, but denies it, we may need to consult our own attorney. If any of you would like to throw hugs our way, we could sure use them. Thanks all! Catlover (Sheryl)