This likely has been a vent or rant at some point on this forum. I was doing some paperwork for my mother who is in the beginning stages of some form of dementia. She is in an assisted living facility with the possibility of memory care transition in the future. I had the TV on and my least favorite type of commercial about "taking care of parent at home" All the drama, pathos and memories that are geared to selling their "product" I want to shake those advertisers since they are NOT based in reality, just fantasy. Yes, I know, it is their job...and it works. I feel guilty because I can't emotionally care for my mother in home. I begin talking back to the commercial: "Yeah, but if they won't wear the alert...they won't accept help...they think they are bathing and eating right...they think they are fine. How do you deal with that?"
Money is a constant worry..yet commercials show people building additions to house a parent...Hire a caregiver to keep your parent at home..."She refused to cooperate"
Give them a phone " She doesn't know how to use it and can't remember from day to day"
The conversations with my mother leave me drained...I know I can't reason with a dementia patient. I understand I have to be strong for her...but some days I just want to have one of these pretend actors just spend a day or two in my and everyone else's shoes and live the reality of a caregiver's reality
Quit preaching your product...I don't need the guilt...yes..it is just a commercial selling a product...but the product is people and guilt...
Thanks for this forum to vent and have those who are living the last stage of aging.