So MIL is still living with us although the area Agency on aging has been to the house to visit and are planning to come back again and MIL is not at all happy. When they left she basically screamed at all of us kids included and went storming off that we do nothing but pick on her and we will not leave well enough alone. Truth be told we are looking out for her best interest even though she doesn't see it that way and from what we can tell she's refusing to take meds, she may or may not eat on any given day, sleeps for at least 15+ hours a day and still is refusing to bathe which has become another BIG issue. We spoke to someone who wanted to assign her a different case worker who may be better to handle these issues so we are waiting to hear back from her. We are just basically venting right now because everything seems to move at a snails pace these days when it comes to this stuff and we thought for sure we would be further along in the process than what we are for getting her placed somewhere. We know we cannot just drop her off at the NH but we are just really disappointed with her Dr and their entire staff as they have not been much help to us since DH does not have POA. It all just happened so fast we really didn't have time so that definetely was a lesson learned........Hopefully we will get some movement soon....We can always hope right.
Do you have papers that indicate that your mother cannot now make her own decisions or be in charge of her own choices? If so you will need guardianship. That is the work of a Lawyer who will walk you through the court process.
If guardianship or conservatorship is chosen will your mother fight that? Because if she choose to the court will appoint her an attorney and the fight runs into big dollars at once. Those dollars would be on you if you lost the case, and judges are very very very hesitant to take a citizen's rights from them even WITH papers from a doctor saying that the person is not able to make his or her own decisions.
Sure do wish you luck. The easiest and fastest way to get all this done is the ER dump in which you refuse to take back the person into your home saying you are unable physically or mentally to care for her. Then a Social Worker often gets temporary guardianship papers from a Judge with a phone call and the person is placed with a Hospital Social Worker. What you are going through with Mom not an inpatient, unfortunately is TYPICAL in an uncooperative person.
So sorry nothing is better.
No, sadly it seems she can't see it that way. Can't see her ship heading for the rocks - without family to steer for her.
But you've got a direction now. Stay the course & weather the storm of her screaming & accusations.
Stay strong. Keep your destination in sight.