My father, as I have posted, fell and cracked his head open. It was a mess with bodily fluids and blood and a huge swelling on his head. He was
rushed to the hospital and looked practically dead, but he pulled through, went to rehab and is now back home.
He is keeping himself clean and is asking for help at least 2x a week.
If I had walked away, IDK, I am glad I didn't. It's kind of a miracle
And you are not required to take him out at all .
he seemed to be wearing his depends
we picked him up to go to lunch, husband had to wipe shit off the seat before he could drive
he said he lost his money clip and fumbled with his pants and pockets and his belt he wouldn't leave the place until we insisted it was so embarrassing :(
got back and he peed in his pants
he isn't wearing his depends anymore
house is full of shit
a wet gross towel on his chair
I was going to hire cleaning people but no he will hate them and berate them and treat them like shit
he is going to die and I don't know if I care
he makes snarky comments to me and my husband there is NO ONE else who gives a crap
he is just an awful person, i hope none of you have to deal with a person who came from hell
Set boundaries and take care of yourself , you matter .
I feel so stupid
I would imagine, tangled and enmeshed as it all is, you would have had a certain amount of guilt, appropriate or INappropriate, had your father not gone to hospital, recovered, and returned home. But to be frank, nothing is much changed by any of this other than a certain natural relief that you don't have to worry about any personal responsibility.
Again, for you Mary, the trick will always be how involved you wish to be with your Dad and your Sister. But this seems to have taught you some valuable lesson in where you need to be in terms of feeling "good" about yourself; that in itself is a useful in taking care of yourself.
I wish you good holidays. Try to honor your own boundaries well as you can for your own self-protection.
For most of your posts you've wanted nothing to do with your disgusting father and his ways and just wanted to walk away and now it looks like you're glad you didn't.
I just hope that you're not setting yourself up for more of his toxic abuse and that you feel that you deserve it in some sick way, as someone who keeps going back for more abuse is just as sick as the one doing the abuse.
Just some food for thought.