Totally heartbroken; My honey passed away.
Well everyone. I am totally heartbroken as I sit here with tears running down my face. My honey passed away at 2:15 am yesterday morning. I was called at 900 am on Thurs morn and told to get to the hospital as he would be lucky to make it through the day or following day. I called his brother and headed to the hospital and they started their drive up. I was at the hospital from 1100 am Thurs to around 4 am Friday morning. He had told me several times while I was sitting there and before that he was tired and just wanted it over. He held on knowing his brother was on the way. Just before he passed over he asked his brother and sister in law to watch over me and take care of me (they are like my brother and sister). Palliative care stepped in near the last and kept him comfortable and at peace until he passed. I don't know what I would have done without them there. They stayed until today to make sure I was ok and then they had to head home.
Though I am no longer a caregiver if it is ok I would like to still drop in and say hi and add my two cents every once in a while. Y'all have a wonderful weekend and Thanksgiving.
Your honey even at the end of his journey was worrying about you and telling his brother and wife to take care of you, his love!
Both, caregivers and our loved ones who we care for, go through so many changes through this journey, that there are moments (so many!) when we feel so tired, so overwhelmed, so sad, angry..so done! And that applies to both sides. But it is all driven by the intense situations we are having to go through. The bottom line and the most undisputable truth is that we LOVE, we love and we live our love with everything it brings, every challenge and every joy.
At the end, when your honey was being let free from all the pain, physical and emotional, he was left with the feeling that is really the only feeling that matters, his link to you which will last forever, his love for his sweet honey!
In the middle of all you’re feeling don’t forget that blessing Dusti, the blessing of his love to you and your love to him. That never leaves, never changes.
Now rest, rest your mind, rest your body. Give yourself time to just be. Then get your life in a new order and do what your honey wants you to do for him, the ultimate gift you can give him and yourself: Take care of YOU!
A big hug and please keep coming by dear Dusti! You and your honey will be in my prayers.
I'm so sorry you lost your Honey.I know you loved him very much and took such good care of him.
I hope you will stay here on AgingCare to give and receive support.
Take good care of yourself in the days ahead.{{{hugs}}}, Lu
so sorry, hope you can rest in the days ahead
come back here often, we're still your support
God bless and definitely don't be a stranger here.
I'm glad that both you and your honey had loving people with you for comfort and support. Go on taking good care of yourself, now, won't you. Are your BIL & SIL still with you?
You're always welcomed to come back here to read, comment. Now that both of my parents have passed on, I went through a stage where I felt odd commenting here. Like I no longer belonged here since I'm no longer a caregiver. I found out that others have gone through this, too. And still come back here to comment. Come when you feel the need to update us on your life. It's fine. Anyway, I think some of us would like to see updates with your current mysterious health issue. {{HUGS}}
God bless you.
Please come back and give your two cents! I was Mom's live-in caregiver for 13 months until she passed. My friends on this forum probably saved my life and I check in nearly every day to try to carry help forward. Those of us no longer providing care can still give advice and comfort and be comforted.
Take care of you and remember the good times. His misery is finally over.
Please stick around, you have advise that will help others through similar struggles.
May you be blessed with grieving mercies and many things to be thankful for this Thanksgiving!
I wanted to get everyone's thoughts.... I am thinking about writing about what I am going through with the loss of my honey in the hopes that maybe it will help someone else who is going through the same thing and I wanted to get y'alls thoughts on it. I am not sure whether to post here or to start a new discussion. What are y'alls thoughts on that.
Y'all have a great night and a wonderful, safe and fun Thanksgiving.
I'm praying for you and for your honey's family.
I know you are happy for him that he has fought the good fight and is at peace.
Your posts were always so upbeat even though you usually had difficult issues to deal with. You have an amazing attitude. Good luck with your paintings and do come back and share your journey. You can rest now knowing he doesn’t need you to watch over him.
Hugs
May God comfort your grieving heart and illuminate your path.
- Thanks Gershun and SueC.
- Well everyone I just started my new thread. Right now it is under "end of life" in the discussion section. Thought it belonged in discussion rather than questions. Y'all have a great Wednesday!
Dusti