How do I get my FIl to realize that when he says he is calling me he is not?. This usually results in him urinating on himself or worse falling. I got very upset yesterday and said somethings I didn't mean and now my husband isn't speaking to me. I keep telling I have had enough and I need help. We are a sandwich generation with not enough help with our own children let alone an elderly parent. I feel really bad but I am at that point.