Calls it a "concentration camp". Go figure. He's been there a month and wants to leave. Abusive and calling or should I say phone stalking local sister to yell at her. She's the emotional one and highly affected by his behavior. On Xanax already. He cannot walk, at least very well. Uses a wheelchair. Yells at local sister that "you took everything away from me!" Now has requested insurance information and cashed out policy as a way of saying, well, you took everything away from me, now I'll take everything away from you. (we think) Sort of like a thumb in the eye. Can't go back to the way it was before the ALF. Wants his car to drive away. Both of us very hurt and frustrated. Hating life right now. Can I disown him? :-( Just venting here, I guess, although he may soon have no daughters left.
I know you're hurt and frustrated with his behavior. Does your sister have caller ID so she can avoid his calls? He might settle in to his new place after a while, particularly if he does not have anyone to yell at. He might calm down. Until then the only thing you can do is care about him, but try to let his words and actions roll off. Many elders get full of bitterness and blame. They want so much to turn back time, and often believe if they can go back the way it was, things would be better. But the change in their living conditions were made because the old ways didn't work anymore. I hope your father will accept that fact soon.