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The nurse came yesterday..put a foley cath in mom since she kept thinking she needs to potty. I was worried mom is so weak. She needs to rest so this will help with her being able to rest completely. The nurse came and assessed mom she says it will be just be a matter of days..one week.
Mom got up last night actually stood up for the first time in a month..said she needs to go. "I said where mom?" and she starts picking up the bedding as to take it with her. " they are waiting for me and I'm going with them" I tell her "mom, lets rest first." She says to me..."are you coming too?" I said "sure, mom but first we rest, they will come back in the morning."
I guess the nurse said this is common too..they will have a surge of energy. I pray for peace. I hope this is over soon.

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Prayers for peace and comfort for both you and your Mom.

A friend's husband kept trying to pack because he saw his parents at the door waiting for him. They had passed several years ago and he talked to them nightly the last couple of weeks. He said his Mama was singing lullabies to him to help him rest at night. She said it was comforting because her husband was peaceful and eager to go with his parents.

We'll be thinking about you.
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My dad had the same type of "visions". 4 days before he died, he was trying to get up. When I asked where he was going, he said Jess (his friend who had died several years ago) said they have to get in line, they have to be fourth in line. I told him since it was hard for him to stand, I would wait in line for him until they got to the front. He also kept saying he needed to go home. I would try to reorient him and tell him that we were home but he kept saying no this is not the home, I need to get going. Shortly before he lost consciousness the day he died, he started saying "mom, mom, mom". So I asked if he could see his mom and he said she was about 5 feet away. I asked him if anyone else was with her and he said not right now. I asked if she had a smile on her face and told him she was probably really glad to see him again after all these years, that he should go give her a hug. It really was an amazing experience. Hospice told me that it was not at all unusual and called his agitation "terminal agitation" - knowing he had somewhere to go but didn't know where or how to prepare for it. He had had hallucinations at other times when his oxygen levels would get low but this was very different because it was always with people who had already passed and were very important in his life. Good luck ~ Kuli
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Thank you all..it's so comforting knowing these are all part of the process. I am so glad I didn't give up on her. My mom has been so peacefully sleeping and I am sure she is having all sorts or visions because she smiles a lot. I'm sure there are many up in heaven with open arms ready to receive her. I feel blessed already.
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What an incredible Lady you are! God Bless you and your Mom. May the Lord, God the Father, and the Holy Spirit Comfort you and your Mom. I ask this in Jesus's name. Amen.
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Oh my, this is so sad and sweet. Blessings to you, msdaizy and your Mom. May she find peace and joy and happiness with her passed loved ones and may you find peace and joy and happiness with your loved ones here on Earth. Keeping you both in my prayers.
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My heart goes out to you. As you know my mom passed away January 1st. Her funeral is this Sunday. I know it is going to be very hard for me because I miss her so much. May your "Mary" soon enjoy the peace mine has. Stay strong. I know exactly what you are going through.
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Yes...Nanieine it seems our Marys will be seeing each other soon. It's been a very tough week and but i'm okay. Mom is in Respite at the Hospice House, which I can only believe was Gods plan all along because it was scheduled over a month ago. The nurses are so loving and caring...they jump at every wimper or scrunched brow. She has been so peaceful. She wakes up a little and grabbed my hand tonight as I kissed her cheek and I told her to give my dad a kiss for me in heaven. She saw me crying a little and tried to say something out of concern, but her throat is so dry. I smiled and said.."Mom it's okay..I'll be okay..and you go when you need to go." I saw how she relaxed and went back to sleep. I think it will be soon. And I am ready. I have so much peace in my heart now. Blessings to all of you.
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((((((((hugs)))))))) and prayers for a peaceful passing and for peace, and comfort for the family.. That is what we told our son - If you need to go, it is OK. He went the next day.
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God be with your mother and you, msdaizy. I believe you'll see your mother again some day and she will have a body that doesn't hurt and a mind that never forgets. You were so lucky to have each other here. {{{{You are a wonderful daughter.}}}}
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Msdaizy: Today was mom's funeral, and to see the outpouring of love for her was so comforting. Whatever I may have gone through as her caregiver was all worth it. The only regrets I have are sometimes feeling frusterated because my sister never pitched in. But, as I sat there and looked at my 6 nieces and nephews and their 6 spouses, and saw my sisters 9 grandchildren (who just passed me by because none of them knew me....they never came to see mom), I thought what a sad thing.....for them, not mom! They were the ones who missed out on having the most wonderful, funny, witty grandmother and greatgrandmother. Then, I glanced at my daughter, who was so close to my mom, and my 3 great grandchildren along with my son in law. They were the winners. The love and memories they have will last a life time. They were the ones who brought the greatest sense of pleasure. She was so proud of them, and as she waited to fall asleep her very last day, I told her how very proud I was of her. She will be forever in my heart and mind. I know I'll have to keep up with this site, because I know I will find strength and encouragement from all of you who are going through or have gone through the very same thing. Hang in the Mzdaizy. I can say I know exactly what you are going through. When your mom does fall asleep, I can assure you, you will feel as I do: No Regrets! and so proud of your mom, who put up a fight and won...she won your love forever. Hugs, Elaine
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Elaine I thought about you today. I remembered it was your mom's funeral and I am so glad you don't have any regrets. I know too...I feel the same. Even though at times I felt stressed and exhausted and frustrated. It was the right thing for her. And I know she appreciated me when we got past those moments of frustration. The sweet mom I knew came back to me in the end. Today as I sit in the room with her I pray and whispered in her ear that she was the best mom I could ever have and to go when she needs to go...we will be okay. She heard me she whimpered a little. Then I told her I loved her. I know she wanted to say it back to me..her mouth was moving but she had no voice. "I said I know mom."
I'm ready ..the nurse says it will be in the next couple of days. It's been 7 days with out food or water. And I am ready.
This has been the best thing I have ever done. Funny thing is... I remember saying not too long ago...that it was the hardest thing I have ever done. Both are true. But no regrets either, my friend...no regrets. ((Hugs)) back to you.
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Keeping you and your mom in my prayers msdaizy. You too, Elaine. (((((hugs to you both )))))
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Update on mom...still hanging in there. She has exceded the 5 days from the nurse of last Wednesday. It's been a full week now since mom quit eating and almost a week tomorrow since no more fluids. She has dwindled before my eyes...so so hard to watch. She is rattling...but snoring at the same time. She is now unresponsive but still warm in her hands and feet. I look at her hands even though they are starting to change to a purplish grey..they still have full blood veins which shows that she has hydration still. Her respite of 5 days will be over on Wednesday. I really hope she won't last that long. The nurse thinks maybe 24 hours tops. I pray that the end is sooner. I can't take it much more...it's so excruciating. And all my family members far away are agonizing over the waiting. She will be my little energizer bunny till the end. Thank you all for your loving thoughts, kind words, and continued prayers. I truly appreciate all of you. God Bless. Debbie
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mzdaisy, your posts are enough to keep anyone motivated and in the here and now!
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Hang in there Debbie, take care of yourself.
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im sending u good energy-it is so painful to watch-but i believe she knows u r there, and that u love her and when its time, she will always be with you-
im sorry for this torture at the end of this life-rips your insides, u both r lucky to have had eachother-
i cry and pray for u-
and send u support and love-
k
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Thank you all...yes we are still here. I cannot believe the fight my little momma has in her. Bless her heart. My sisters, husband and brother in law and myself have been vigil at her side. We thought at 11 pm last night it was it...I have not been to bed yet for two days. I hope it wont be much longer ...her breathing is more shallow and slowing down. They think we are getting closer to her entering the gates of heaven.
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Prayers for you Msdaizy, of comfort and God's arms around you and your family... I am thinking of you and praying for a peaceful passage for your mom... sending lots of hugs...
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Ms. Daisy -- I do believe my mom and your mom must have been twins in a former life.

My mom died last Thursday. She went without food for 10 days and without water for over 5 days. She just kept on and kept on. Like your mom, she went from here (home) where I was primary caretaker, through a huge shitstorm of a crisis, switched hospice providers, was admitted 2 days before Christmas to a hospice house for respite for me and to get her more comfortable (long story)...and then to a rehab center to finish out her life. I gave all I could for as long as I could and then one day I woke up and said "I can't do this anymore. I'm done".

After that, angels took over. The Hospice house was like a peaceful heaven for her and for me. They gave her a quilt for xmas and I got a stuffed Santa. They fed me a wonderful Christmas dinner. And in return, I weeded their courtyard. My mom left there and transferred to a rehab center she had been at over the summer, and they welcomed her back as if she was everyone's "nana". They absolutely loved on her, and carried out hospice's orders to the Tee, each and every hour. I do believe my mom knew she was there, knew her favorite CA when he crawled into her bed and held her while crying for her -- she opened her eyes and said "Hi Ed!" and that was the last sensible thing she said. I think she decided she could leave when she realized that she was not going home again. I think she was greatly distressed by the strain the caregiving was putting on me and was actually content to be comfortable, with friends and that she could let go.

She passed quietly Thursday morning.
I returned to work today. I told my coworkers again and again that I know their prayers worked -- because angels came to me again and again and helped me and my mom out.

Ironically, or not, 3 people in my department at work lost their mom's over the holidays. All three of us were the primary caretakers. All of us left work on leave when things got bad. All of us watched our mothers peacefully leave the world under the watchful eyes of hospice nurses.

Your mom wil be joining these three fine ladies soon.

It will be a peaceful sadness. That's what they called it at the Hospice House. I like that. Peace be upon you, peace be to your family, and peace to your beautiful mother.
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Ms. Daisy -- that is a typo. The Hospice house calls it a "beautiful sadness". My typo. Isn't that a beautiful phrase? I will never forget it.

God bless you.
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They that love beyond the world cannot be separated by it. Death cannot kill what never dies. William Penn

I wish I could reach through this computer and just hold your hand.
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Thank you blackcat for sharing your story. I know her time is close...she is so peaceful and starting to breathe more shallow. My two sisters are here with her and the nurse told us to hold her hand up and not enclose your hand over the top as if you are holding her back but lay her hand on top of yours petting her hand and lifting it in the air at a angle, as to release them. She looks so much more at peace now than she has this whole process. Thanks for you thoughts and prayers.
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I'm with the two of you. I was laying in bed hoping to get a good nite's rest and all of a sudden I had an anxiety attack. Started hyperventalting. It hit me like a ton of bricks that my mom is really gone. I ran down to her room and grabbed her pink night jacket, just to smell her again. I laid on her bed and cried until I couldn't cry anymore. It has been one week today that she passed away. I had to keep thinking positive things, then I decided to check in here. We all have something in common, and just knowing I'm not the only one going through this helps. Somehow we will get the strengths our mothers had. Msdaizy, your mom and mine apparently came from the same "stock". Hang in there.
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Msdaizy....you're on my mind, in my heart, n prayers...I pray your mothers passing continues to be peaceful, until she reaches home.....love n blessings
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My mom bless her heart...is wrapped in the loving arms of Jesus this morning. She was fighter in the very end but Jesus took her home at 1:05 this morning. l already miss her...but I know she is in a better place.
Thanks for all the prayers this week. It was a tough thing to endure but my sisters and I were there with her the whole time. God bless you all.
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Prayers of comfort for you and your family.
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Sending you love, love, love.
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Prayers of love and comfort for you and your family... sending you hugs.
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I miss her so much..its so painful to walk in her room.
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(((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))) - I know it will be like this for a while, and you will always miss her, but it will ease in time.
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