Sad news. My 101 year old mother died unexpectedly Friday evening, 10/16/20. I am all alone with no family here. Tomorrow (well today I guess already Saturday) I have to go to the funeral parlor to make arrangements all alone.
I had just helped her to go to the bathroom. She was walking back holding onto her wheel chair and started to shake violently. She collapsed into the wheel chair. I dialed 911. She was not breathing so I pounded her chest with my fist twice. She started breathing. Took about 20 minutes for ambulance to arrive, 15 minutes before they left the house with her, 20 minutes to the nearest hospital. I rode in the ambulance and half way to the hospital they put the siren and lights on, I knew then she most likely would not be coming back home. I prayed her favorite prayer, The Hail Mary, the entire trip for her. At the ER a doctor stopped me to take me to a waiting room but then another doctor came from the room she was in and they took me right to her. She was dying. There were about 10 hospital staff in there ready to try and save her but I said no. She does not want any such attempts. They quietly and quickly backed right out of the room but one nurse stayed with me. I called my sister and held my phone to mom's ear so she could say goodbye. Did the same for her 1 granddaughter and 1 grandson. The nurse said she could still hear. I hoped she could die peacefully at home but guess that was not meant to be. The day before she died, she said to me "Susan, you can go on your own now. You can do it." I asked her if she wanted me to move out and quit taking care of her. She said "no but you can go on your own now." I guess she knew her time was near. A priest came and gave her the last rights and stayed with me until my good neighbors came to take me back home. So my caregiving days are over now. But I would give anything if they were not. May my sweet little mother find eternal peace with all the loved ones she missed so much that have passed before her.
Thanks to everyone that answered my questions on here. You were all so helpful. Very much appreciated. My heart is aching and broken. She was my very best friend my entire life. I still have my little dog though. He is a comfort more than ever now. My sister, well, she hung up on me mad. Guess some things never change even when a loved one dies. She will not becoming when Mom's remained are interred at the cemetery. That hurts but nothing new from her. Now I do go on my own. Mom's they even give us words to remember and get us through a tough time like this.
"Susan, you can go on your own now. You can do it." I will do my best to honor her wish.