I think that when elderly people have no memory at all, they should be forced into a nursing home.
my mum has no memory at all - yet, because I live next door to her, I have to be her caretaker - in spite of the fact it has now become a public safety issue - I am in a block of six units. There have already been incidents where a fire could have broken out - but because and only because I live in the next unit, mum is allowed to remain in the community. If there are any south Australians here, can anything be done to get mum admitted to a nursing home - even though she is against that and wants help from no one but me?
i actually did worsen my own disabilities looking after mum. I now have recurrent sciatica and restless legs syndrome.
the family doctor knew all this world happen to me, but he said i had to care alone for mum anyway just because I have a disability.
it wasn't until i threatened him with legal action that he got scared and referred mum to a geriatric specialist. The rest is now history. Mum is finally in permanent care which they now say should have happened five years ago.
as for me, i am changing doctors. Id dearly love to complain to my new doctor about my old one, but i don't think id better
I understand she refuses help, but what about if you are not available, if you lived elsewhere? I am sure you can research options in your area on the internet, and I am certain their is a process for funding and getting her admitted.
Sad situation in any continent. best of luck.
what do you suppose your suggest I do if mum does get sent home again - I just can't cope
(©2014 AgingCare, LLC All rights reserved), where we can share, support, vent and take comfort in knowing we are not alone in situations such as yours. If it is so bad to the point you are considering suicide, I urge you to seek emergency treatment and fast. I would also suggest that you seek out legal advise since you have more than reported all these living conditions, instabilities and overwhelming mental duress and have been forced a caregivers position upon you, that clearly is beyond your limits and abilities! Sometimes, it really does take trained professionals, special tools, skills, and the right facilities to provide safety, and treatment in order to give the required proper care for those in need. I hope the right relief at the right time comes to both YOU and your Mum that you may have a better way of life, peace and happiness, whether you remain together or apart...
given that mum has caused harm to the neighbors cat, I can't understand why our doctors here won't admit mum. It seems that all our doctors and nurses do is just run tests and fill out pieces of paper and then arrange more appointments for more tests at a later date. This adds to mums confusion which forces me to spend hours and hours of each day with mum answering the same questions over and over again.
my life has become an unbearable nightmare