I have posted my story before, but it has gotten markedly worse.
Both parents with movement disorders, living almost 2 hours away from me. Many rehab stays from falls, strokes, heart attack. I am only child.
They would never consider assisted living, said would rather die.
They hired 6 caregivers who are: on disability, getting money under the table, etc. some have been bold enough to repeatedly ask my father to give/sell them their land.
I have tried to abide by their wishes.
I love them, and although they are selfish, I tried to accommodate their wants.
Its been 6 years. I have had aggressive breast cancer, and cannot lift and push them.... I have ongoing health issues and can’t take care of myself because of all this and the constant stress. Both are way past assisted living, but still mostly mentally competent. Now, caregivers have pitted one parent against the other, possible theft.... I am getting messages and calls constantly with them all tattling on one another with my mother in the mix. I have had no life for years.
I have an 18 year old son who has been diagnosed with epilepsy and was hospitalized last week.... who cannot drive and I need to be here, now and long term for him.
I can’t take care of myself and work my part time job and field their overwhelming needs, wants, appointments..... my mother told me last night that I needed to “buck up”.
My heart is broken, and I just can’t live up to their expectations. I would never put my child in this kind of position.
I know so many of you deal with so much.... I guess I just needed to vent.
I am a person of faith, and I have prayed so often for the Lord to shed light on what to do with this mess.