Hello everyone, I just joined this group prompted by my 35-year-old daughter. I am so thankful for her! She found this site and sent it to me. My mother fits many of the various scenarios posted in this forum. I find myself asking why is my mom so negative, so grumpy, so cold? I talk to her on the phone every day and help her as needed. I have a brother in the area who does not help at all and Mom focuses on that rather than being thankful I am at her beck and call. I just wanted to say thank you to everyone posting. There is some peace in knowing one is not alone.