The hard part is over.
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My condolences to those who’ve had a rough 2017 (2016, 2015, etc ~ anyone who is struggling at the moment) - I hope that 2018 is a better year for you.
Back in the 1970's my then hubby and I went on a cross-country train trip and met an older couple from NYC. For 35 years the wife and I would exchange holiday cards and annual letters. She had a photo of us and them on the train that she had framed and kept on her wall.
In 2016 I didn't hear from her even though I mailed her a holiday/birthday cards. Last year still no word from her even though I just mailed her a recent holiday card. I checked the Internet and found what sounded like her death announcement in 2016 but no obit. The birth/death years would have matched up for her. Oh how I wished the family would have taken her address book and let people know she had passed :(
On the other side of the coin, my then hubby and I were visiting France in the 1980's when we met a lovely older couple from Germany. The wife spoke English. We invited them to the States and they came. Had a wonderful time. The husband knew more about American History then the average American... he was giving "us" the tour of Washington DC. We exchanged cards for decades. Then she stopped writing. Thankfully one of her sons would exchange emails with me for a while giving me updates, his Mom had Alzheimer's. Even though communication had dropped for over 5 years, the son did let me know his Mom had passed a few months ago.
Thinking of you all. Wishing us all peace and comfort in 2018.
I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. It is a terrible shock.
My father passed last October and now my mom's mother passed this October as well. I am starting to dread this month all together. It is hard to deal with so many losses. But I try to take to heart your words to treasure each day.
She had what they thought was a heart attack Tuesday night and passed away today. I'm still in shock. She was only in her 60's and had not been sick or diagnosed with any heart condition. Her family and friends are reeling. I just feel so out of it. This is going to be a more somber Christmas, that's for sure. We have to treasure every day. That's for sure.
And Barb I am with you. I do not feel like I have grieved my mom. I lost her a bit at a time over her 12 years of Alzheimer's. The way I feel I do not know if I ever will grieve her. Those last six years were very difficult.
I'm so sorry for all your losses. I don't know what to make of life sometimes. I'm starting to feel there is no rhythm or reason. I know your pain and sorrow is deep. Thinking of you.
I think that is the hardest part. To think our parents' decline started with the first TIA or the next stroke and then the next. My father wasn't the same either after his stroke. You were a very loving and dutiful daughter. No adult child should have to witness their parents decline. It is horribly painful.
While the hospital said that she didn't have a stroke that day, my mother's brain was never the same. Almost 8 years ago is when I really lost my mom, which may be why I'm not feeling all that "mournful".
I think you expressed it perfectly. Hugs my friend. Thinking of you and your family during this difficult time. It takes a long time for our minds to come terms with our journey.
Windy, anxiety is a terrible and debilitating thing. I grew up with two extremely anxious and hypervigilant parents and didn't realize until I was in my 20s that I didn't have to be that way.
If it gets in your way, I hope you'll seek out some relief in whatever way helps you.
Your comment about the cellphone vigilance hit home with me. *sigh* Not saying I don't miss the anxiety of a middle of the night phone call, it's just so SILENT.
My mom died 4/12/17. It's so weird to me she's gone. I can't ask her questions about a memory or a recipe anymore.
I'm relieved her suffering is over, but her strong personality kept her pretty cognizant to the the last couple of days. She denied she was dying even two days before. That makes me sad as we could've had some good talks.
My father in law died March 25th and my only surviving uncle a week after my mom. 2017 has been a rough year.
I've had a lot of anxiety lately. I'm hoping it goes away.
My mom did all she possibly could have for each of us when we were kids. Then she gets old and sick... Any relationship with my sister's is now not possible. One day one of us will die, then I wonder what the others will do.😟
Thank you for starting this thread. I also lost my dad in October 2016. It has been a painful year. And today I am particularly teary thinking back about what I could have still done to save him. He relied so much on me and my judgement, that I gave myself zero room for error. I was lucky to have a good father. He was present and he tried his best for his children.
Thinking of you all. Sending love and hugs to everyone.
Thinking of you and such a fresh loss.
09/19/2016 my Dad passed at 95 from aspiration pneumonia. A very bright man, inventor, very gentle soul, great sense of humor. All his caregivers loved him :) Dad had missed my Mom terribly after 70+ years of marriage.
I do miss them both.
I lost my mom on June 1, 2017. A very successful woman in her own right. A loving mother, at least much of the time, though I did not appreciate it at the time. Thinking and loving you mom.