Don't "promise" anything that may require you to become their caregiver in the future. Even saying "I will be there for you" can be misconstrued by some that you will be at their beck and call.
It is mentally, emotionally and physically impossible to be all things to all people and admitting/acknowledging that is nothing for which to feel guilty.
Don't make promise that you don't know if you can keep.
Convince mom to get a cancer screening (do it when her doctor said the cancer lump first formed and not wait several years before it was noticed on her own at home) and hope she's willing to listen and follow through with the screening.
If she doesn't listen, be prepared to essentially give up everything, not have a life, and get very few breaks.
1) Boundaries = professional and mental survival. 2) Save for neurological problems that may be the cause, do not accept ongoing verbal abuse or being taken advantage of.
That your best is all you can do, and that that will be good enough. and You are just as important as the one you're caring for, so please make sure you are caring for yourself if you want to survive the journey, which often times can be longer than you ever thought or expected.
It is not sustainable, not healthy for you or the recipient.
Don't make promise that you don't know if you can keep.
Accept that it is what it is...no fixing is going to happen.
Then provide comfort.
If she doesn't listen, be prepared to essentially give up everything, not have a life, and get very few breaks.
Respite care.
2) Save for neurological problems that may be the cause, do not accept ongoing verbal abuse or being taken advantage of.
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You are just as important as the one you're caring for, so please make sure you are caring for yourself if you want to survive the journey, which often times can be longer than you ever thought or expected.
2) Mind your own business, care only for those in your immediate family or household.