I’ve read some of the threads on this site, and my situation is probably not as dire as some, but I have no-one to talk to. I’m the sole caregiver for my 93 year old mother, since 2012, when she stopped driving. I also work full time. I feel like I’m working 7 days a week. I spend both Saturday and Sunday driving her to do her shopping and errands, and spend time with her during the week. I have no social life, except for some lunches at work. I’m single. I can’t travel, because I don’t have any backup. The only time that I’m not stressed is when I’m at my office. My office is my safe space - I love Mondays. My mother is very emotionally dependent on me. Last week the bank made a mistake and she wanted me to drop everything during a work day and drive her to the bank. She’s depressed because she doesn’t get out enough during the week. She won’t have anything to do with Senior’s programmes, paid caregivers, it has to be only me. I was really sick this winter, and she still demanded that I take her out - she said I was malingering and all I had to do was to splash some cold water on my face and get going. She said she couldn’t trust me anymore because I was always sick. (I think I had bronchial pneumonia or something). I have spoken to her many times about how I need a back up; not having a back up stresses me out. Finances are not an issue for her or for me. I would like to hire someone to take her out mid-week so she won’t be so depressed but the answer is no. 4 years ago I managed to get away for a weeks vacation. I paid her cleaning lady to go and knock on her door every day and report back to me that she was okay and to get her anything she needed. She got the door shut in her face and was told not to come back. I’m getting sick all the time, with bad headaches and it’s starting to affect my work, I’m having trouble concentrating, I need to take medication to sleep. I feel like I’m living in a box. I’m exhausted. My mother thinks I should devote all my time to her, because she looked after her mother. When I pointed out to her that she didn’t have a full time professional job, she said “oh right”. My mom is fine mentally, but she is failing emotionally. I really want us to have a good relationship for the time we have left together. I know it’s up to me to set boundaries and look after myself. I just feel so guilty when I set a boundary that it’s easier just to give in.