
My husband is not feeling well and I'm getting really concerned. It started with joint ache after working too hard, then he had a fever for a few days, his ankles were swollen too, I got him to go to doctors, no heart issues, negative Lyme, they gave him steroids, he got better, got another fever, lasted about 24 hours. He went for a recheck, I don't think he told the doctors about the fever, I wasn't happy, but didn't want to argue about it. He looked pretty good, I had hoped what ever it was passed. Then yesterday he got his fever back again. Now I'm pretty freaked out. I don't think I'll be able to get him to doctors today while he is sick. I got ahold of a good friend that he respects a lot, see if he can talk him into going to docs, will see.
Anyways, I really haven't liked the way he looks the last few month, and I worry about cancer , he worked in a chemical mill, and worked in waist management for like 20 years, extremely high rate of cancer.
I started an antidepressants 4 days ago, because I just have this bad gut feeling, and haven't been sleeping. There is not much anyone can help with or advice, I'm doing the best I can with a stubborn old fool. That's about it, really not any advice needed. Just explaining what's been going on . Thanks, for listening
Just curious, have you tried the tonic water when he is feeling feverish? You had mentioned that he had contacted malaria in the war and that can show its ugly head anytime.
Great big warm hug to you! Watching our husband's be unwell is challenging.
Also started wondering if it's long covid , mixed with his usual possible malaria. He got really sick in December, then in January he was still coughing, they put him on steroids, and he started not looking good in March.
I don't usually freak out from his fevers , but this is too much
I have learned that our Healthcare system just checks and treats the main symptoms that are complained about, and then refer to someone else for anything more.
Patients need to be persistent in advocating for their own care.
Unfortunately, your husband seems to be persistent in minimizing his symptoms and avoiding getting any diagnoses. Perhaps he is afraid of what they may find.
My neighbor came home from work with an excruciating and unusual pain in his back. He wanted a diagnosis, but It took 3 months of referrals and tests to finally be diagnosed with bone cancer. Once diagnosed, treatment started immediately. But the wait time to get in to see specialists for further diagnostics was unbelievably long.
Please talk to your husband with tough love. He needs to be aware that this issue is causing you heaps of stress.
THAT IS HEAVY DUTY VERY POWERFUL meds.
What did they say they were giving him steroids FOR?????
Are they aware of the history of Malaria that RealyReal picked up on?
This is not nothing, and if they are giving steroids and not know what they are giving them for, and he is worse and getting fever and swelling back again, then he needs to see the doc again at the least, and if he is too weak or ill to do that you need to call the ambulance whether he likes it or not and that will get him seen in a cubicle ASAP because he sounds at present much too ill to sit about in an ER for three hours.
So sorry this is going on but you need an answer and he may need a scan. His body is having a huge inflammatory response with the joint swelling and pain. Something is afoot and you must have answers.
Has he ever had a flare like this before? This doesn't come from working too hard.
Sorry Daisy. You need to pursue answers.
Jan, you are right, and if there are steroids on board it will cut inflammation and mask an infection. Giving steroids for infection rather than inflammation can cause serious consequences. Sepsis could run rampant and quickly.
I would get hubby to hospital, Daisy, whether he likes it or not. I truly would. He can't be sitting in an ER. If he can't be seen ASAP in urgent care and if there's no one to help get him there, call an ambulance. At least you are here at home and not in another country to address this.
Good luck.
Will check in later today after my treatment. Good luck, Daisy. I am glad you are going with the paramedics. They are kind and they are efficient and he will get seen right away, not left sitting the afternoon suffering in an infested ER.
I have personal experience with tonic water helping someone that had contracted malaria, obviously AI has artificially inseminated you to think you know it all.
I want to encourage you to not go straight to something terrible is wrong with him. He might have nothing and just an old age struggle but, no matter what he is dealing with, I'll believe with you that every thing will be okay.
Remember to hydrate, eat and rest while you guys go through this trial.
Praying they find out what is causing all of hubby's symptoms. So very glad you called the ambulance! With his BP 220 over 100, he could have had a stroke. Very happy they got that under control.
Men are very stubborn when it comes to their health.
My husband had what I thought was the flu 3 years ago. He had fever that would go down when given Tylenol, then race right back up again. 3 days this went on. He didn't want to go to the hospital. Turned out to be a kidney infection and an infected kidney cyst. What a surprise. No overt kidney symptoms.
I share this story to reinforce that you did the right thing calling the ambulance. When he is diagnosed and treated, hopefully he will thank you. Get some rest. Eat something. Breathe deeply. Tomorrow you can persistently advocate for him.
And please keep us updated. We are all concerned and want to know how he is doing...and how you are doing.
Pam, thanks, 🙂↕️🙂↕️
He called me at 5 am his fever broke, at this moment I don't care whats wrong with him his alive!
Thanks so much especially you Alva, and isthisrealllyreal.
Glad to hear he’s improved .
Continued prayers for both of you and for his medical team.