Happy Thanksgiving everyone.
I hope all of you have a lovely Thanksgiving. This is the time to thank God for our own health, our families, our wonderful country, and the fact that we have been blessed in some way or other.
My husband and I will spend it alone together for the first time in 10 years. I am looking forward to it. We have always spent it with Mom, eating at the Independent Living facility and it has never been relaxed or enjoyable. This year she will be in the nursing home and well cared for.
I will feel somewhat guilty not to see her, but in my heart I know she will be unaware it is a holiday, and if someone tells her, she will forget in five minutes. I visited today. She is so tranquilized she is pretty much out of it but they have no choice - it is the only way they can keep her from hurting herself. She gets up every five minutes otherwise. They have padded her hips and the floor around her bed, put alarms on her bed and chair. She can't stand on her own and has already fallen in the hospital, NH and AL. Now at least she is not agitated and restless and sleeps most of the time. She doesn't eat more than a few spoonsful of ice cream, maybe a sip of water so Thanksgiving will be meaningless to her, as it has been for the past 10 years.
This is so sad, knowing the end is in sight, but at least she is calm.
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My loved one is in Memory Care and while we will visit with her, she won't be able to process what is going on. We'll just take treats, hug and look at some old photos. I go for the moments of comfort, since she won't recall it minutes later.
I'm so grateful for all I have, especially my health. There are so many who don't have that anymore.
God bless you all and best wishes to you all as we approach another Thanksgiving.
I am no Martha Stewart so cooking a dinner from scratch is too nerve wracking for me. I need a tranquilizer just to turn on the stove :P Last year and previous years when my parents came for holiday, my local grocery store would cook a Butterball turkey, and I would pick up the box which also had sides, pie, stuffing, and bread... all I did was heat it up.
Dad's daytime Caregiver plans to take Dad to Cracker Barrel for Thanksgiving early bird after they visit with my Mom who is in a nursing home. I will visit Mom some time in the afternoon, depending on my own health... caught sig other's nasty cold. Mom is also at the stage she doesn't remember if I was there or not. And she's a climber out of bed, too, not realizing she can no longer stand or walk.
Good day to start on my Christmas cards and letters.... how I dread doing all those. Guys get off pretty easy as how many cards/letters do they do??? Plus Dad will probably want me to do their cards, too, but their list is now pretty short.
Happy Holidays to all
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"The Oven Space/Time Continuum: How Do You Schedule Oven Time for Your Thanksgiving Dinner?"
My only difference is that the pies are the first thing I make the morning of Thanksgiving. This is the simplest oven schedule I could find. I checked out Cook's Illustrated and their schedule began 3 days ago.