
As another yr goes by MIL is beginning to complain more and grip no one visits her, etc. MIL even had conversation recently on phone with husband and told him " He dosnt want to talk to her" he was like hu? she hung up. Talk about manipulative. MIL also threatened to get rid of her cell phone in summer as stated" NO ONE CALLS HER " she dosnt know why she has a phone?..... As holidays are around the corner she is making her kids and affects the spouses how MIL is begining to complain and make her 2 children that live several hours away guilty. IT is a broken record. my husband and I son lives near by and she even calls him numerous times when she gets in her mode. Our son is pretty respectful and return her call if he is not busy with a new gal friend. Last yr. I called out to my husband I am having Christmas and MIL is welcome, but do relize she is not able to ride more than short distance. So that is not an option. I told my husband he may want to tell his mother ahead of time so she relizes this isnt time for her to visit. She gets visitors all the time and spending one christmas with my husband ...him not feeling this may be the last Christmas for her isnt being selfish. Ones who say dont let it bother you go on with your lifes, it is most impossible. Does anyone else feel this way, and be helpful to know any advise other than sarcastic help and criticisms, Thank you for any an all of your stories, and experiences with your loved MIL.
What exactly are you doing for your MIL that you're feeling so "burned out" ?
My advice to you is to call the woman regularly and visit her regularly too. Bring her small gifts and snacks to show you care. It goes a long way to put effort into doing such acts of kindness for loved ones in wheelchairs cooped up in nursing homes. In fact, we're going candy shopping today for my cousin Terry who's cooped up in a wheelchair in a nursing home bc she loves candy. Try it. It feels good to do for others. They don't KNOW we care unless we SHOW them.
When she calls you, your husband, your son, or really any family member and starts up with the complaining and wallowing in self-pity, shut her down. Tell her plainly that you will not listen to her complain and this is why no one calls her. Then end the call.
She may benefit from one of those AI computer program calls that will listen to her complain and interact with her.